• daannii@lemmy.world
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    22 hours ago

    I stopped shaving mine years ago because it seemed like I was developing an intolerance to every razor blade.

    I told people it was cause I am a feminist.

    I also was sorely disappointed in what grew in.

    My whole life I thought if I let it go natural I’d have this majestic thick black beard under there. Something to be proud of, you know?

    However after it grew in, it’s a medium brown. And the hair is actually kind of fine and fluffy. And not dense. And

    I guess this is the feeling men have when they try to grow a beard and find out they are one of the ones who can’t do a decent job of it.

    I wanted something to make people uncomfortable. To challenge their preconceived notions of womanhood.

    Instead it just looks like I have a little brown, thin, soul patch under there.

    Very sad.

    Not even worth going sleeveless for.

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      51 minutes ago

      As someone else who doesn’t shave the armpit, my experience is similar. Less of a soul patch and more of a threadbare patch of dying grass though.

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      2 hours ago

      For whatever it’s worth, your comment still challenges me. I know it’s a “me” problem to prefer shaven, but…I struggle with it. So, at the very least, please know that you thoroughly confronted me with your womanhood.

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      6 hours ago

      I guess this is the feeling men have when they try to grow a beard and find out they are one of the ones who can’t do a decent job of it.

      😭😭😭 yes

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      15 hours ago

      FWIW I’m amab and I have a similar soul patch of armpit hair, so you’re at least at parity with a dude. Just the way it be sometimes 😭

      I also can’t grow facial hair, but that’s a separate question

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      19 hours ago

      I wonder if it gets thicker as you get older, the way beards do? Beard hair doesn’t just start up, it gets thicker over time.

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        18 hours ago

        Well I’m 40. I can say ,in general, i seem to be becoming less hairy as I get older.

        Hair only grows on front calf parts of my legs now. None on my toes like it used to. I asked around And my lady friends my age and older say they have experienced that too.

        My guy friends say they are pretty sure they are getting hairier. Apparently ear hair is a thing they struggle with now.