• unknownuserunknownlocation@kbin.earth
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    3 hours ago

    Many women either expect men to make the first move or are just way too shy. I’ve had a number of women say it directly.

    Case in point, I was at an event a half a year ago and guy said I should ask a certain girl to dance, since she likes me but is to shy to talk to me directly. Only problem is, I only wanted to dance my ass off that evening and wasn’t too interested in getting to know anyone.

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    6 hours ago

    Truth! My girl asked me for my number first. Only time that ever happened.

    Tho to be fair, she said she did it cuz she heard some other woman we work with say hi too eagerly one day, and rushed to be first In line.

    Also want to point out, coming to the end of a successful mental health journey becomes immediately apparent to people around you. Stability, kindness and value of yourself and others will become apparent almost immediately visible to those around you through vibe alone.

    Learn to love yourself first, others will come soon after

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      4 hours ago

      Yeah, a lot of this is simply human variation.

      I’ve been in relationships where I’ve both been the asker and the askee, just depends on the dynamic ¯\(ツ)

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    6 hours ago

    or maybe she’s “not interested” because other guys make the first move, so it’s easier to just wait

    I know I wouldn’t bother with making the first move if I had people I liked reaching out