Sorry, I wasn’t really trying to say that no one likes doing it, or that those who want to shouldn’t. There are plenty of home chefs, and those of you who love it should absolutely do it to your heart’s content! For those whom it’s about the money, asking people to bring ingredients might work?
But I guess I was reading entitlement into the original statement, a sense of “my aunt used to do it all by herself and now the rest of us are expected to help ugh.”
No sorries required, and you brought up a good point. I actually snapped off at my family when I was younger, because we had an issue during Thanksgiving one year and everyone expected my aunt and I to just quietly take care of it. We had worked our asses off all day to give the entire extended family a nice meal, and they sat around like spectators when something broke afterwards and made a mess. That was the straw that broke my back, because I felt like all the care and effort Auntie and I put in to make the day special for everyone else wasn’t appreciated, or even acknowledged. You’re absolutely right in pointing out the expense and effort putting on a huge feast requires, and no one should be expected to shoulder that if they don’t want to or can’t for any reason.
Sorry, I wasn’t really trying to say that no one likes doing it, or that those who want to shouldn’t. There are plenty of home chefs, and those of you who love it should absolutely do it to your heart’s content! For those whom it’s about the money, asking people to bring ingredients might work?
But I guess I was reading entitlement into the original statement, a sense of “my aunt used to do it all by herself and now the rest of us are expected to help ugh.”
No sorries required, and you brought up a good point. I actually snapped off at my family when I was younger, because we had an issue during Thanksgiving one year and everyone expected my aunt and I to just quietly take care of it. We had worked our asses off all day to give the entire extended family a nice meal, and they sat around like spectators when something broke afterwards and made a mess. That was the straw that broke my back, because I felt like all the care and effort Auntie and I put in to make the day special for everyone else wasn’t appreciated, or even acknowledged. You’re absolutely right in pointing out the expense and effort putting on a huge feast requires, and no one should be expected to shoulder that if they don’t want to or can’t for any reason.