Yep. She also tried to convince me I was abused as a child. I wasn’t. She was just trying to maximize my vulnerability to weaponize it so I couldn’t leave her, because she was one of those crazy co-dependent types.
No she was. On the surface. She was the only girlfriend I ever had who cooked, or bought me gifts, and who didn’t hate me for my hobbies and friends. Most women I meet on first dates reject me straight up for my hobbies and interests and many of my other girlfriends hated/resented me for them, and never in a million years would ever do something nice for me like buy me a gift.
I’m much happier being single. Since I went through therapy my salary has tripled and lots of other great things, but I still exclusively attract horrible women. I just don’t date them anymore. The biggest red flag now is I have a dog and a cat, and almost every woman who is interested in me HATES either dogs or cats, or both. On dating apps I regularly get messages like ‘oh hey would you get rid of your cat/dog if we hit it off?’ It’s wild. But at least now I spend my money on myself, and not trying to make some emotional black hole of a person ‘happy’ by buying them crap.
Okay yeah that’s also just bad science, if we’re completely ignoring what her endgame seems to have been.
I guess that makes sense. The most effective abusers are ones who keep you guessing about how they’re going to treat you from moment to moment.
Well, I’m glad you’re doing okay single. Ideally that’s kind of the best mind state to be in no matter what your future holds. Send an update if you do ever hit it off with anyone who treats you right, though. I kind of need to hear more stories about men healing and recovering from shit.
Yep. She also tried to convince me I was abused as a child. I wasn’t. She was just trying to maximize my vulnerability to weaponize it so I couldn’t leave her, because she was one of those crazy co-dependent types.
No she was. On the surface. She was the only girlfriend I ever had who cooked, or bought me gifts, and who didn’t hate me for my hobbies and friends. Most women I meet on first dates reject me straight up for my hobbies and interests and many of my other girlfriends hated/resented me for them, and never in a million years would ever do something nice for me like buy me a gift.
I’m much happier being single. Since I went through therapy my salary has tripled and lots of other great things, but I still exclusively attract horrible women. I just don’t date them anymore. The biggest red flag now is I have a dog and a cat, and almost every woman who is interested in me HATES either dogs or cats, or both. On dating apps I regularly get messages like ‘oh hey would you get rid of your cat/dog if we hit it off?’ It’s wild. But at least now I spend my money on myself, and not trying to make some emotional black hole of a person ‘happy’ by buying them crap.
Okay yeah that’s also just bad science, if we’re completely ignoring what her endgame seems to have been.
I guess that makes sense. The most effective abusers are ones who keep you guessing about how they’re going to treat you from moment to moment.
Well, I’m glad you’re doing okay single. Ideally that’s kind of the best mind state to be in no matter what your future holds. Send an update if you do ever hit it off with anyone who treats you right, though. I kind of need to hear more stories about men healing and recovering from shit.