Those skills being taught are there to help you come to a state of acceptance, an emotional place of ‘It is what it is. It happened, but I don’t feel thrown into an emotional spiral by remembering it.’ Shitty ‘be a man’ therapists or ‘counselors’ might try to get you to just repress the feelings to pretend to have reached that space for the sake of fitting in. Grifty ones might have you come in and talk endlessly about it so they can charge you for all the time while you effectively talk yourself through it enough to suck some of the power out of the memory. It all seems to land somewhere on a spectrum within the space of ‘it is what it is,’ whether it’s a healthy version or not.
I mean… so, yes?
Those skills being taught are there to help you come to a state of acceptance, an emotional place of ‘It is what it is. It happened, but I don’t feel thrown into an emotional spiral by remembering it.’ Shitty ‘be a man’ therapists or ‘counselors’ might try to get you to just repress the feelings to pretend to have reached that space for the sake of fitting in. Grifty ones might have you come in and talk endlessly about it so they can charge you for all the time while you effectively talk yourself through it enough to suck some of the power out of the memory. It all seems to land somewhere on a spectrum within the space of ‘it is what it is,’ whether it’s a healthy version or not.