Failure to do something can be as much your fault as if you did something wrong.

In the face of societal oppression good parenting requires positive and engaging action. “I’ll love you no matter what” is warm but scary, while “I’ll assume your non-binary until you come out one way or the other” is a clear message of acceptance.

(My daughter came out as cis, largely because she was annoyed at her parents proactive inclusion.)