“baby it’s cold outside” is exactly about that… And the term “playing hard to get” wasn’t invented by rapists…
Unfortunately sociopaths took the “mouth says no but the body says yes” to just mean “everyone’s body says yes if I want it to” and so we have to be explicit in society now to prevent date rapists.
Some people just don’t pick up on social cues. Narcissists are literally incapable of it.
Times, they are a changing… If we could end slut shaming then women wouldn’t feel so ambivalent about expressing desire
I wish I could just say, “if you can read people and have empathy then you can tell the difference”, but people who don’t, don’t know it. People that don’t care will pretend to have made an honest mistake.
I think that in 2026, most people would be quite upset happy if their partner just stopped and refused to continue because “wait means no wait and no doesn’t mean convince me”
I think there’s even test no’s now… Like, it’s only going to be a yes if youre very respectful with the no… It’s all about respect and not assumption. If they’re into CNC then it has to be communicated first with a safe word and not just implied.
It’s hard to make a flyer that accuratly conveys nuance… and there are so so many aggressive assholes out there you just have to accept that women shouldn’t trust you.
“baby it’s cold outside” is exactly about that… And the term “playing hard to get” wasn’t invented by rapists…
Unfortunately sociopaths took the “mouth says no but the body says yes” to just mean “everyone’s body says yes if I want it to” and so we have to be explicit in society now to prevent date rapists.
Some people just don’t pick up on social cues. Narcissists are literally incapable of it.
Times, they are a changing… If we could end slut shaming then women wouldn’t feel so ambivalent about expressing desire
I wish I could just say, “if you can read people and have empathy then you can tell the difference”, but people who don’t, don’t know it. People that don’t care will pretend to have made an honest mistake.
I think that in 2026, most people would be quite
upsethappy if their partner just stoppedand refused to continuebecause “wait meansnowait and no doesn’t mean convince me”I think there’s even test no’s now… Like, it’s only going to be a yes if youre very respectful with the no… It’s all about respect and not assumption. If they’re into CNC then it has to be communicated first with a safe word and not just implied.
It’s hard to make a flyer that accuratly conveys nuance… and there are so so many aggressive assholes out there you just have to accept that women shouldn’t trust you.