Having a bad day is one thing. Taking it out on your patient by lying, yelling, threatening, and trying to delay their care is quite different. You must be a very forgiving person because I would have plastered details of that interaction on Google, social media, local news, their boss (if they have one), etc. Unless they’re literally the only person with that expertise in the world, no one should have to be treated like that…
That did cross my mind. However she’s a phenomenal surgeon and that is all I needed her to be. Her skills dramatically changed the quality of my kid’s life for the better so it was well worth it. Also every interaction with her since then over the years has been perfect. Maybe she found out her husband was cheating on her that morning? Maybe her grandmother passed away and she just got the news before the appointment? Whatever it was, what I said to her was just the straw that broke the camel’s back.
Yeah the industry has just kinda accepted that surgeons are just like that lol. A lot of hospitals are settling for just getting them to stop shanking the circulating nurses with spare scalpels. Honestly I used to work with criminally insane men so I could probably grapple a surgeon. My issue with OR was that it’s too cold and I couldn’t scratch my nose when it itches. Also ortho surgeries in particular are a sensory nightmare it was like a soundbyte of a dwarven mine from a fantasy movie on loop for eight hours just –ding ding ding CLANG ding ding ding CLANG ding ding– I could not.
Having a bad day is one thing. Taking it out on your patient by lying, yelling, threatening, and trying to delay their care is quite different. You must be a very forgiving person because I would have plastered details of that interaction on Google, social media, local news, their boss (if they have one), etc. Unless they’re literally the only person with that expertise in the world, no one should have to be treated like that…
That did cross my mind. However she’s a phenomenal surgeon and that is all I needed her to be. Her skills dramatically changed the quality of my kid’s life for the better so it was well worth it. Also every interaction with her since then over the years has been perfect. Maybe she found out her husband was cheating on her that morning? Maybe her grandmother passed away and she just got the news before the appointment? Whatever it was, what I said to her was just the straw that broke the camel’s back.
Yeah the industry has just kinda accepted that surgeons are just like that lol. A lot of hospitals are settling for just getting them to stop shanking the circulating nurses with spare scalpels. Honestly I used to work with criminally insane men so I could probably grapple a surgeon. My issue with OR was that it’s too cold and I couldn’t scratch my nose when it itches. Also ortho surgeries in particular are a sensory nightmare it was like a soundbyte of a dwarven mine from a fantasy movie on loop for eight hours just –ding ding ding CLANG ding ding ding CLANG ding ding– I could not.
I take back what I said: you’re also an amazing parent. All fair points, but I hope she at least apologized…