The argument was “it happened before so it’s fine” which is an absurd argument, and I’m just pointing out the absurdity.

“You don’t get a choice so it’s fine” is also an absurd argument. If someone kidnapped me, bound me up, and expressed their intention to cut off my hand, then I would worry about it even if I had no choice. If you’re telling me you wouldn’t be worrying in that situation, you’re a liar or incredibly abnormal. Lack of choice plays nearly no part in the degree of worry.

What can help alleviate worry is knowledge, but here is a topic that is impossible to learn about.