• 7101334@lemmy.world
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    11 hours ago

    I’m not single

    or 55

    but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym. Idk. Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work. “Captive audience” type shit, it would feel gross to me.

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      10 hours ago

      but if I were single at any age, I would never approach a woman at a gym.

      I mean, more power to you. I’m mostly just saying “Women over 55 who are fit exist, you can find them at gyms all over the country.” I’m not suggesting you need to hit on any of them.

      That said, I can say from personal experience that people flirting with each other at the gym is incredibly common. I’ve flirted. I’ve been flirted. I even dated a Pilates instructor that I met there.

      Feels only a small step better than approaching them at work.

      Lot of flirting happens in offices, too.

      “Captive audience” type shit

      You meet people where you both are. But there’s a tactful way to approach people and a crass way. Don’t go running up to grab someone by the pussy. But smiles and small talk don’t hold anyone hostage.

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      11 hours ago

      They’re not talking about approaching women at the gym.

      They’re talking about observing women that are over 55 and in shape. Because they exist. Despite popular belief.

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        8 hours ago

        In fact, you’re more likely to meet people who are both old and in shape at the gym because…

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          8 hours ago

          I mean, more power to you. I’m mostly just saying “Women over 55 who are fit exist, you can find them at gyms all over the country.” I’m not suggesting you need to hit on any of them.

          The other user said it to you, too.

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          8 hours ago

          Meeting people doesn’t mean you’re approaching them to flirt.

          The argument is whether fit women over 55+ exist. They do.

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            8 hours ago

            It’s not necessarily even about your intention, it’s about leaving people alone when they probably want to be left alone.

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              8 hours ago

              You’re completely missing the point.

              No one is telling you to approach these women at the gym. Just notice that they exist.