I saw an issue today on a fairly popular project (better-auth, see the link to the issue attached). No repro, no context, just a wall of caps and profanity ending in “fuck you”. The maintainers ship this for free. People run production businesses on top of it, for free. And the thanks is someone raging into a text box because a minor bump cost them an afternoon.
I maintain and contribute to a few projects myself, so this hits a nerve a bit. Something people don’t see from the outside: it’s not enough to know how to build the thing. You also have to know how to defuse a thread where someone’s insulting you and not fire back, even though most of us aren’t paid for any of it, let alone the work of staying civil while being told to get fucked.
I’m not pretending breaking changes don’t cause real pain (that’s what the issue is about). But I keep coming back to a boundary question: if you’re not paying for it, do you actually get to demand anything? (Obviously yes, but we still need some boundaries)
Having been on the maintainer side of a popular project once before, I’ve pretty much just taken the mindset of “if you owe them nothing, then they owe you nothing”. Basically, pay them, or stop making demands (though suggestions and bug reports are usually welcome by maintainers).
Incidentally, this is why I didn’t accept donations for that project (though I have nothing against donations in general, of course). I didn’t want to even feel a sense of responsibility to maintain a project I knew I’d eventually burn out from.
I wouldn’t take it as far as paying allows demands. If I decided to pick up some litter in my way in public and some sees it. Just because they shoves a $20 in my face, doesn’t mean they can demand and expect I’ll pick up all the other trash around. There would need to be contract (even just Social) negotiations at the least!
Neither would I.
Paying implies exchanging money for something the other party is selling, and would require the other party (the maintainer) to sell it. Shoving $20 in someone’s face is a donation, not a payment.
I just refused donations for myself. I would never claim a donation gives someone any special right to demand something.