• NickwithaC@lemmy.world
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    13 hours ago

    The premise of this advice is such bullshit! I recognised that I had a whole lot of love to give and no one to give it to so I went out and got into a relationship. It definitely made me happier and we’re 8 years in at this point.

    • mrgoosmoos@lemmy.ca
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      1 hour ago

      you said it made you happier, not that it took you from unhappy to happy

      it’s an important distinction

    • Talcosis@lemmy.zip
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      5 hours ago

      I have the sneaking suspicion that this is true. My life is pretty great, until I remember I’ve never been in a relationship and I get sad for the rest of the day.

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      12 hours ago

      I tell my single friends it pretty much balances out. Being in a relationship (albeit a healthy one) definitely makes you happier, but it comes at a constant price of compromises.

      Loving someone and being loved is great, but i do miss playing online games with my microphone on until I pass out in my underwear covered in doritos dust.

      • TrackinDaKraken@lemmy.world
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        3 hours ago

        Yes. Relationships always require ongoing compromise. No two people are identical in their desires or needs.

        For some people the benefits of a relationship offset the need for compromise, for others they don’t.

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        9 hours ago

        After 25 years of marriage (no kids), I can say that, if you make the right choices, you can have both lol. We both played WOW for a decade or two off and on, and still game, just less passing out, less online, and less Doritos… Because age.

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        12 hours ago

        Why would a relationship be in the way of that? My partner would have zero issues with me doing that, as long as it doesn’t become a concerning pattern

      • AcidBurn@retrofed.com
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        9 hours ago

        Uhuh.

        My partner of 10 years sometimes comes to bed at 3am after getting too eepy to carry on playing vidya