people have in in their heads they have to achieve certain things by 30 or they will never happen or you have ‘failed’ at life and are a ‘loser’.
career, house, marriage, kids, etc.
despite the fact, realistically, most of those things are now only achievable by the time you are 40, due to economic reality, and more and more folks will never achieve them also due to that reality. the mentality however, persists, especially among those who are under 30 that 30 is when you ‘become adult’ and have all the ‘adult’ things.
only 1/3 of people own a home by 30 today, and I’d guess a huge chunk of those folks inherited that home rather than purchased on their own income. every young home owner i ever met had their home mostly or completely paid or by their parents. it’s common for 20 year college kids in my city to own homes, because their folks buy them for them while they attend university. and my only family is thinking of doing that for their kids.
I’m almost 40, and I only know one person who bought their house without direct and significant help from their parents. And that person only managed because they married an older doctor who could afford to buy a foreclosure when prices crashed in '08.
Its compounded for me by the fact that everything I had or was interested in was 20 years old when I was young, plus I lived in the same neighborhood of courage the cowardly dog. So now, I feel like I’m about 80 and everything truly is over because tech sucks and all my favorite musicians are dead 😆
people have in in their heads they have to achieve certain things by 30 or they will never happen or you have ‘failed’ at life and are a ‘loser’.
career, house, marriage, kids, etc.
despite the fact, realistically, most of those things are now only achievable by the time you are 40, due to economic reality, and more and more folks will never achieve them also due to that reality. the mentality however, persists, especially among those who are under 30 that 30 is when you ‘become adult’ and have all the ‘adult’ things.
only 1/3 of people own a home by 30 today, and I’d guess a huge chunk of those folks inherited that home rather than purchased on their own income. every young home owner i ever met had their home mostly or completely paid or by their parents. it’s common for 20 year college kids in my city to own homes, because their folks buy them for them while they attend university. and my only family is thinking of doing that for their kids.
I’m almost 40, and I only know one person who bought their house without direct and significant help from their parents. And that person only managed because they married an older doctor who could afford to buy a foreclosure when prices crashed in '08.
Its compounded for me by the fact that everything I had or was interested in was 20 years old when I was young, plus I lived in the same neighborhood of courage the cowardly dog. So now, I feel like I’m about 80 and everything truly is over because tech sucks and all my favorite musicians are dead 😆