I think in general talking about outward appearances kinda misses the mark for a lot of people. People are generally capable of finding others attractive for who they are as long as they get along well.

I think, if you just asked him to name traits he likes in a woman, I think my husband would have said he generally prefers petite women, and although I’ve always been tall I was thin when we met. But my body has changed a lot over the years, and I know he thought I was the cutest girl in the world at every point in that journey. At my biggest, he’d talk about how cute my stomach squish is. At my thinnest, he’d tell me how cute my thinness is. It’s really all psychological.