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    15 hours ago

    Decades ago, before we were married, my then-boyfriend would get hit wth an overdraft at least once a month. AFTER we got married, he bounced three checks and I put my foot down (three strikes and you’re out, sweetheart!) and we opened a joint savings account with no ATM cards tied to it. Just having the bank account be mostly in-only and tightening up on the spending - since we had to go to the bank and make a withdrawal if we wanted money for shopping - got through to him once we went a year with no debt and no fees. If we didn’t have the cash on-hand, we went without. 35 years later, it’s second nature to not be spending money… At least 3 days a week we both go without a single purchase of anything. Not even a cup of coffee.

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      13 hours ago

      Good on ya!

      I used to be like that too. My SO helped me get over that habit. I really wish we were taught the basics of this kinda stuff in school…

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        2 hours ago

        Americans used to be taught it…

        I had to take Home Economics in 7th grade (this was in 1977-78) and we would learn how to plan meals and cook them, food safety, how to iron a shirt and sew a button back on, how to balance a checkbook and budget monthly household expenses and also there was a smattering of sex ed topics.

        I was blase on it at the time, but it did stick and now I wish it was still taught with the emphasis on budgeting and money like it used to be.

        I guess that Americans aren’t supposed to know how to avoid debt.