I’m not sure if this is the right place but me and my friend group have lately become privacy conscious and wanted to stop using discord and other types of social media, and only log onto self hosted options that only we can access.

we’ve eliminated something like Revolt (now named Stoat due to it missing ideal features and the developers being anti-decentralized (as well as being extremely hostile to the userbase noticably…)

Does anyone have any idea what would be an ideal service to use?

  • farcaller@fstab.shEnglish
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    11 hours ago

    I’m in a same boat, honestly.

    Matrix has decent clients but managing a matrix instance is a world of pain, especially if you federate. And its resource use is really bad then: a single user instance can easily demand 4gb ram if you are in a couple popular chatrooms. Key propagation is oftentimes broken. Clients all have mixed support of features.

    Xmpp is a joy to host, but there are no decent clients for iOS.

    IRC is easy to host, but the IRCv3 coverage for clients is also meh.

    I was looking for something that I could throw at casual people with relative ease and there’s just not a thing. Even the “techy” chat is in discord nowadays.