Yeah. It rubs me the wrong way to hear jokes about being attacked at night being a good thing, and I’m trying to find a reason people would keep making it to me even after I ask them to stop that’s maybe trauma based in the setting of how they’re perceived by the wider society instead of them just being assholes. This is also exactly why even if I do turn out to be a trans dude I’ll still probably never interact with “the trans community.” I’ve never encountered a group of people less willing to discuss how gender dynamics actually play out for me in the world I’m living in. I’ve had MAGA coworkers who are significantly more accepting and validating of my evolving gender expression and how it’s affected me than other trans people. People also don’t like hearing that as a trans dude I’d still be unable to empathize with a lot of my patient’s lived childhood trauma of being raised as a cis male to the extent that my cis male coworkers can. Part of that is people just not believing that trauma exists (which is it’s own issue) but a lot of it is just people so deep in their own specific traumas around invalidation that they’re just completely unable to have a constructive discussion about how their actions affect other people even within their own community.