I mean. With a question like this you are going to get a lot of opinion on this and its mostly going to be realtive that persons lived experience. So I guess before I start im just saying I like others have personal bias based on my feelings. Is my wife my best friend. Heck no. I can think of no better way to stop being good friends with someone than living with them 24x7, combining all property and finances, and having to have mutual agreement on how your lives will run. Marriage is far more than just friendship. For myself and your question. It begins with men. Im not sure if im typical but I think I am when I say a man feels he is responsible to support his family. Even if there is dual incomes a man like myself will view the buck as stopping with him. He is responsible for whatever state the support of his family is in. He will feel guilt that he could not somehow bring more to it and feel often that his spouse and/or children would have been better off without him. This drives him to work jobs or do other things in ways he essentially wants to do. Its almost impossible for him to provide enough. enough food is great but how about shelter. food and shelter good then how about education and healthcare. all of that good and then hey are you providing enough outside of school opportunities and hey are you working to much and not providing enough time to the kids. it just goes on and on. Now woman have this too but I think the thought processes are different. When woman converse about this with their spouses the men will often hear that they don’t make enough or are successful enough or have provided enough. I think woman do the same but for them its that they will feel they are being told they don’t personally do enough. Men often are simple. If they were single they would not need all this money. They could live in an efficiency on rice and beans and whatever. What I guess im trying to say is its an escapist fantasy. If I was single and did not have all these problems then I could be a monk or a mountain man or whatever. Fact is if they were they would just be lonely and if they ever lost their spouse they would be devastated. Its not about marriage its about not feeling good enough and wanting to be free of the weight of responsibility.
I mean. With a question like this you are going to get a lot of opinion on this and its mostly going to be realtive that persons lived experience. So I guess before I start im just saying I like others have personal bias based on my feelings. Is my wife my best friend. Heck no. I can think of no better way to stop being good friends with someone than living with them 24x7, combining all property and finances, and having to have mutual agreement on how your lives will run. Marriage is far more than just friendship. For myself and your question. It begins with men. Im not sure if im typical but I think I am when I say a man feels he is responsible to support his family. Even if there is dual incomes a man like myself will view the buck as stopping with him. He is responsible for whatever state the support of his family is in. He will feel guilt that he could not somehow bring more to it and feel often that his spouse and/or children would have been better off without him. This drives him to work jobs or do other things in ways he essentially wants to do. Its almost impossible for him to provide enough. enough food is great but how about shelter. food and shelter good then how about education and healthcare. all of that good and then hey are you providing enough outside of school opportunities and hey are you working to much and not providing enough time to the kids. it just goes on and on. Now woman have this too but I think the thought processes are different. When woman converse about this with their spouses the men will often hear that they don’t make enough or are successful enough or have provided enough. I think woman do the same but for them its that they will feel they are being told they don’t personally do enough. Men often are simple. If they were single they would not need all this money. They could live in an efficiency on rice and beans and whatever. What I guess im trying to say is its an escapist fantasy. If I was single and did not have all these problems then I could be a monk or a mountain man or whatever. Fact is if they were they would just be lonely and if they ever lost their spouse they would be devastated. Its not about marriage its about not feeling good enough and wanting to be free of the weight of responsibility.