I still find the people at fault who deliberately ignore the boundaries of people who say they don’t like a food. I’m unfortunately allergic to things I actually really do like, and wish I could eat.
If someone doesn’t like something (their age doesn’t matter here), we should be more respectful of their autonomy over what they put in their body. Having to claim an allergy in order to have that taken seriously is the nuclear option after saying you don’t like something doesn’t work/isn’t respected.
That people like me with allergies receive some of the fallout of that is still on the people trying to force others to eat foods they don’t want to or shouldn’t.
I’m there with you. I’m properly allergic to a few foods I really love, including almonds and (non-celiac) wheat. My wheat allergy is just mild and I can avoid some of the fallout if I pop a Benadryl first. It’s likely an extension of my severe grass allergy, which also doesn’t kill me.
Many people don’t understand food allergies, thinking food allergy means instant anaphylaxis. That’s when you see these “purity test” bullshit posts where the waiter refuses to serve the person “faking” an allergy for their own safety (and I’m sure everyone claps). I can eat about a pancake’s worth of wheat once every week or two and just be a bit uncomfortable for awhile. If I ate like a whole pancake breakfast? It gets ugly and uncomfortable, sometimes for a few days.
So if I snag a bite of my partner’s pancake, I’m not faking an allergy. My self-control just sucks sometimes.
This reminds me of people who get upset when somebody in a wheelchair stands up or walks. Some people have disabilities where they can physically stand and walk, but only for brief periods. So if they need to reach a can high on the shelf and nobody’s there to help them, yeah, some wheelchair users will stand up and get it themselves. It doesn’t mean they’re faking, or looking for attention, or whatever other bullshit such judgemental asswipes come up with.
Likewise, people with allergies can have reactions that differ from person-to-person and that range in severity. It appears so obvious, which makes it wild how some folks can’t seem to comprehend that people can be different from each other.
Conversely if people just honored dietary requests without question we probably wouldn’t have nearly so many people who feel like they have to lie about severity to secure dietary request compliance. In all cases the buck stops with the person making the food.
But it’s people like Karens that perpetuate the reason people don’t believe it.
If they didn’t misuse the word, people would take it more seriously when they were told.
I still find the people at fault who deliberately ignore the boundaries of people who say they don’t like a food. I’m unfortunately allergic to things I actually really do like, and wish I could eat.
If someone doesn’t like something (their age doesn’t matter here), we should be more respectful of their autonomy over what they put in their body. Having to claim an allergy in order to have that taken seriously is the nuclear option after saying you don’t like something doesn’t work/isn’t respected.
That people like me with allergies receive some of the fallout of that is still on the people trying to force others to eat foods they don’t want to or shouldn’t.
I’m there with you. I’m properly allergic to a few foods I really love, including almonds and (non-celiac) wheat. My wheat allergy is just mild and I can avoid some of the fallout if I pop a Benadryl first. It’s likely an extension of my severe grass allergy, which also doesn’t kill me.
Many people don’t understand food allergies, thinking food allergy means instant anaphylaxis. That’s when you see these “purity test” bullshit posts where the waiter refuses to serve the person “faking” an allergy for their own safety (and I’m sure everyone claps). I can eat about a pancake’s worth of wheat once every week or two and just be a bit uncomfortable for awhile. If I ate like a whole pancake breakfast? It gets ugly and uncomfortable, sometimes for a few days.
So if I snag a bite of my partner’s pancake, I’m not faking an allergy. My self-control just sucks sometimes.
This reminds me of people who get upset when somebody in a wheelchair stands up or walks. Some people have disabilities where they can physically stand and walk, but only for brief periods. So if they need to reach a can high on the shelf and nobody’s there to help them, yeah, some wheelchair users will stand up and get it themselves. It doesn’t mean they’re faking, or looking for attention, or whatever other bullshit such judgemental asswipes come up with.
Likewise, people with allergies can have reactions that differ from person-to-person and that range in severity. It appears so obvious, which makes it wild how some folks can’t seem to comprehend that people can be different from each other.
Conversely if people just honored dietary requests without question we probably wouldn’t have nearly so many people who feel like they have to lie about severity to secure dietary request compliance. In all cases the buck stops with the person making the food.