This is only my experience, so take what follows for what it’s worth (not much).
I have been in the same situation as your partner (though I had sex with my partner more ofte, but still way less than before medication).
Simply put, I was ashamed of my low libido and not in a good headspace even with my medication( which was supposed to help).
I was so ashamed that I didn’t want to initiate sex with my partner. It was not rational, but that is how I felt at the time. And I would sometime watch porn so that I could get the dopamine I would get from sex, without the shame.
I know it won’t make you feel better, but hopefully you can have a different perspective on how your partner might feel and get, hopefully, a new track to find a solution to your problems.
Also, there are some medications that can help with libido (Wellbutrin if I remember correctly). Might be worth it for your partner to check with his doctor.
I used to take Wellbutrin, and my bf hated it. I was always like “Eh, helloe.” Even when he punished me, talked to me dirty and did petplay (my biggest kinks/things I like to do while having sex). It was horrible. I’m now on Vyvanse and am fine now. But I do take 3 medicines, one for ADHD, one for depression, and one for PTSD. (Feel free to inquire why I have PTSD and/or depression) Although it works for me, it might not work for everybody else.
This is only my experience, so take what follows for what it’s worth (not much).
I have been in the same situation as your partner (though I had sex with my partner more ofte, but still way less than before medication).
Simply put, I was ashamed of my low libido and not in a good headspace even with my medication( which was supposed to help).
I was so ashamed that I didn’t want to initiate sex with my partner. It was not rational, but that is how I felt at the time. And I would sometime watch porn so that I could get the dopamine I would get from sex, without the shame.
I know it won’t make you feel better, but hopefully you can have a different perspective on how your partner might feel and get, hopefully, a new track to find a solution to your problems.
Also, there are some medications that can help with libido (Wellbutrin if I remember correctly). Might be worth it for your partner to check with his doctor.
I used to take Wellbutrin, and my bf hated it. I was always like “Eh, helloe.” Even when he punished me, talked to me dirty and did petplay (my biggest kinks/things I like to do while having sex). It was horrible. I’m now on Vyvanse and am fine now. But I do take 3 medicines, one for ADHD, one for depression, and one for PTSD. (Feel free to inquire why I have PTSD and/or depression) Although it works for me, it might not work for everybody else.
Wellbutrin can make things go in the other direction, masturbating is like cleaning the trigger of a loaded gun with an oven mitt.