This is what my wife and I did. I think it is a good thing to do, but if you look at my comment history just one comment down from this, you’ll see good reason for what I’m about to say:
Not everyone should do this. It is extremely challenging, and its not something I think most people can take on successfully. Unfortunately, the fact that a kid is in a situation to be adopted means they have been severely impacted by trauma, which means that they will be considerably harder to parent than a kid you have biologically.
It is not for the faint of heart. Hell, its not even for those of a strong constitution. I have been nearly broken many times, and I’ve only been parenting my kids for 5 years. I have wanted to quit countless times.
Wish you both the best of luck and send a hug. I hope the tide turns and you get to enjoy it more with time. We need more people like you in this world.
This is what my wife and I did. I think it is a good thing to do, but if you look at my comment history just one comment down from this, you’ll see good reason for what I’m about to say:
Not everyone should do this. It is extremely challenging, and its not something I think most people can take on successfully. Unfortunately, the fact that a kid is in a situation to be adopted means they have been severely impacted by trauma, which means that they will be considerably harder to parent than a kid you have biologically.
It is not for the faint of heart. Hell, its not even for those of a strong constitution. I have been nearly broken many times, and I’ve only been parenting my kids for 5 years. I have wanted to quit countless times.
I was adopted - abandoned at the hospital after birth. Not every adoptee has a deeply traumatic past that makes it hard to raise them.
Likewise many bio children are just as capable of being stressful and challenging to raise.
Glad to see you’ve gone this route and thank you for doing so. I just wanted to dispel some fears for others.
Wish you both the best of luck and send a hug. I hope the tide turns and you get to enjoy it more with time. We need more people like you in this world.