That’s a problem with everything though. No matter what definition for something you come up with, even if most of population agrees with it, you’d have aggresively vocal minority that will try and push it other way to conform it to their perception/goals etc.
Straight means that, for example, as a man you are sexually attracted only to women. Already met people who dragged it into the “feminine people” camp instead and people who dragged it into “feminine women” camp. I tend on the other hand to stick into the tried and tested too much so I find both irritating xD
I more had “only/exclusively” vs “mostly/usually” in mind. But yes. There is also the question of whether its about gender or sex; homo-hetero being viewed as “same-opposite” vs “same-different”; what you wanna do with them … sex, relationship or both. Some think samesex intercourse is fine as long as you don’t want a relationship . And what even does attraction mean.
I see it as different things, you can fall for one gender, you can feel sexual attractive for another but most of the time do they sync. So that made also sense why some had crushes on the gender they wouldn’t be together with.
It all clicked when I got to know a girl who could fall in love with men and women but couldn’t enjoy having sex with guys even tho she tried to really liked it with the guys she fell for. And that also made me understand what pan really was because I thought it was just bi with extra steps but when gender identity, gender romance and gender sexually was all different things then it all made sense.
That’s a problem with everything though. No matter what definition for something you come up with, even if most of population agrees with it, you’d have aggresively vocal minority that will try and push it other way to conform it to their perception/goals etc.
Straight means that, for example, as a man you are sexually attracted only to women. Already met people who dragged it into the “feminine people” camp instead and people who dragged it into “feminine women” camp. I tend on the other hand to stick into the tried and tested too much so I find both irritating xD
I more had “only/exclusively” vs “mostly/usually” in mind. But yes. There is also the question of whether its about gender or sex; homo-hetero being viewed as “same-opposite” vs “same-different”; what you wanna do with them … sex, relationship or both. Some think samesex intercourse is fine as long as you don’t want a relationship . And what even does attraction mean.
I see it as different things, you can fall for one gender, you can feel sexual attractive for another but most of the time do they sync. So that made also sense why some had crushes on the gender they wouldn’t be together with.
It all clicked when I got to know a girl who could fall in love with men and women but couldn’t enjoy having sex with guys even tho she tried to really liked it with the guys she fell for. And that also made me understand what pan really was because I thought it was just bi with extra steps but when gender identity, gender romance and gender sexually was all different things then it all made sense.