Unhealthy would be if you as the other in the relationship (the one seeking affection here) were not ok with this and tried to change it. It Doesn’t sound like the relationship with the dog is negotiable.
I wouldn’t be happy in that relationship because i need emotional mutuality/reflection, which is clearly muted here. But the two partners here are obviously fine with it.
I don’t mean to diagnose anyone but this is fairly common for both trauma survivors and neurodivergence. Animals are just going to always be safer than people for some folks, and those folk also deserve love.
It’s incredible that I have two people in this thread who simultaneously decide that the OP is an unreliable narrator and completely write in their own stories for why this actually isn’t unhealthy.
Not sure where i decided the narrator is unreliable. They say their partner loves it. Two people happy in a relationship. An example of how one problem solved to meet the needs communicated by the other. The result being positive. That’s just reading what’s written. I don’t see where i made something up. I provided examples of types of people who may use a logic like this but didn’t prescribed it to op.
Not a dynamic for me but i wouldn’t gawk at someone for feeling fulfilled in it. I get the humor that it’s expected to be considered demeaning.
Unhealthy would be if you as the other in the relationship (the one seeking affection here) were not ok with this and tried to change it. It Doesn’t sound like the relationship with the dog is negotiable.
I wouldn’t be happy in that relationship because i need emotional mutuality/reflection, which is clearly muted here. But the two partners here are obviously fine with it.
I don’t mean to diagnose anyone but this is fairly common for both trauma survivors and neurodivergence. Animals are just going to always be safer than people for some folks, and those folk also deserve love.
It’s incredible that I have two people in this thread who simultaneously decide that the OP is an unreliable narrator and completely write in their own stories for why this actually isn’t unhealthy.
It’s incredible, truly — the delusion I mean.
Not sure where i decided the narrator is unreliable. They say their partner loves it. Two people happy in a relationship. An example of how one problem solved to meet the needs communicated by the other. The result being positive. That’s just reading what’s written. I don’t see where i made something up. I provided examples of types of people who may use a logic like this but didn’t prescribed it to op.
Not a dynamic for me but i wouldn’t gawk at someone for feeling fulfilled in it. I get the humor that it’s expected to be considered demeaning.
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