Lol, pronoun fascist. Your right!

Instead of a company owning the monopoly on the data and the infrastructure, the ActivityPub protocol allows for federated instances to communicate with one another so while you might sign in and join through one site, you might find something interesting coming from one of the interested. Same protocol that Lemmy, Mastadon, BlueSky, PeerTube, and some other platforms run that allows for Programming.dev to communicate with Lemmy.ML of Feddit.it

Temp stuff where I could care less about the free tier domain name or things that I just want to funnel to my existing devices: Tailscale

Widespread, prolonged services that will be more actively maintained for a longer amount of time and can just spin off of its own domain/subdomain: Cloudflare

Both are great.