What this is talking about would be if I were to now ask you questions about your marginalization and demanded answers. But since that is not relevant to our discussion here and because it’s not your job to ensure that I am informed on any issues relating to your marginalization I wouldn’t ask the questions in the first place. You shouldn’t have to feel like you have to justify your existence to anybody who possess by and is curious.
People sometimes treat visible members of marginalized groups like they are information dispensers. That just because they are viable they are responsible for entertaining their curiousity. In specific instances where it’s relevant and invited a discussion of their marginalization is fine. But it’s is not the job of someone to ensure any person interested is told about whatever they want to ask.
Hand on the top is way more comfortable. I certainly don’t think or drive like vin Diesel. 2 hands near my lap is wildly uncomfortable. Sometimes I can do one right at the bottom but that depends on the car. Sometimes people’s body geometry is different and different things work.