PhoenixDog

Because “I make a perfectly average dish that is neither great nor terrible” doesn’t roll off the tongue as well.

In Mac and Cheese apparently.

It’s only a matter of time before Trump literally eats a baby and MAGA cheers him on while restricting abortions because “think of the children”.

Every so often I still go on a Bo Burnham Binge.

And it costs me so much because then for two weeks afterwards my ADHD brain just has his songs on repeat when I’m at work or trying to sleep.

What is a queer spectrum?

Just a term I’ve heard for different flavours of queer. Bi, Pan, Gay, Lesbian, Ace/Aro, etc.

What is “pan married”? As opposed to normal marriage?

So I am married to my partner. Before I met them (They’re trans/enby) they had a girlfriend for I think about 7 years? I married my partner. Since then I have two girlfriends myself and they’ve found a boyfriend on top of their girlfriend. So we both have two individual relationships outside of our marriage. And they’re full on mono-like relationships. I love my girlfriends; emotionally, romantically, and sexually. We have sex outside of my marriage and everything is all on the up-and-up with my married partner. My partner is less sexually charged as I am.

So basically, I am married and have two other full relationships and my partner has two other full relationships that aren’t me. And those relationships carry the same pros and cons as any relationship. I could be up late on the phone because something happened. One of my gf’s dad got diagnosed with cancer so I’ve done my best to be emotionally available for her when she needs it.

Pan isn’t just “Look at us and all the sex we have”. If you think one relationship is a lot of work, we both have three lol.

(also totally unrelated, but it’s usually spelled polycule)

Holy crap I didn’t realize how badly I butchered that. I forgot the L for god’s sake. How on Earth did I manage that?

Also, my apologies if I came off as attempting to dismiss your feelings about the topic. That wasn’t my intention.

Speaking just personally, I don’t really care myself how Poly is represented. My polyqueue is a happy little dynamic and that’s what matters. If media wants to say “haha look at us, we’re poly” and it’s just a bunch of group sex without the actual realization they are all individual relationships the same as mono ones, so be it.

Then again, poly in media is pretty under-represented. Lesbians in media are almost over-represented because of the ease of over sexualization of it. So I can totally understand your annoyance in the manufactured representation.

I suppose I came off a bit much in my first comment. I just know a couple lesbian friends who trib and they enjoy it.

I am actually. I’m pan married to a trans person. Also Poly. I’m all over the queer spectrum lol.

Weird to “um acktually” gay sex.

This is pretty much it. I do it because fuck you.

While I also work on trying to unionize my entire industry.