Trans woman, gamer, sci-fi/fantasy writer, catfox
Do you have any idea how rare those even are, let alone how rare it is to find someone who uses them who’d jump down your throat if you got it mixed up the first time? Who in your life has put you on the spot about that? What community has excommunicated you for this? Ae you just making up scenarios in your head to get mad about?
but since this is kinda new it’ll not always be correct.
It’s not new. It’s been a thing for thousands of years. The reason it seems new now is because a bunch of assholes repressed it with violence. Some of us had our identities repressed with violence when we were young, and some of us are still in situations like that. If someone reacts badly to being misgendered, instead of assuming they’re some kind of bad example to be avoided, try to understand where they’re coming from and why what seems like a silly little accident on your part can at time be hurtful to others. That’s not to say there won’t be some real immature people or outright bad actors, but a little understanding can go a long way.
Pronouns essentially make people have to remember 3 words instead of just the name for each person after all.
You already use them. You use them all the time and don’t even think about it. It’s not that complicated. It’s literally elementary school stuff. If you’re genuine then people will notice and great allowance can be made for mistakes… but sometimes the reasons people serve up for why they keep getting it wrong start to sound less like apology and more like justification. Try not to fall into that trap.
Well it sure was nice of you to show up in a thread about how hurt and frustrated someone is about people not using their pronouns, to tell us why it’s actually their fault because one time someone wasn’t nice to your wife.
I’m not continuing this conversation.