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Cake day: December 30th, 2023

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  • This is pretty accurate. When I came up I worked in an MSP. So I had to deal with customers. It taught me a lot about being able to say anything to people. You can break any news to anyone, it’s all in how you present it. So I gained people skills.

    After I passed through that gauntlet and gained a breadth of knowledge, I went internal and gained a depth of knowledge. And I started out breaking the news in a way that I would break news to a customer.

    Later after I proved my depth of knowledge I started being able to be blunt to any CIO or CTO I came across. And most of the time they’d send me reqs or tell me something was happening that required my skill set then would leave me the hell alone to handle it without kibitzing or bumping my fucking elbow.

    When I started my own one man consulting shop I stopped giving shits at all. I found a good client and we have a good contract and most of the C levels like having someone on staff who just says what they’re thinking instead of sanitizing it. The CIO doesn’t necessarily like it but he’s outnumbered.

    All this really only worked because I did go through a few years of soft skill hell though. Price you pay and all that. Well, price I paid for this path.


  • I get what you’re saying and acknowledge that that’s the best environment for some people, but for me there’s a different feel in being in your office and being on the back porch or out in the garage with the door open.

    The fresh air, mild distractions on an easy day, and more natural light make me feel good. I think the beach would be a fucking nightmare for me. Same for things like a coffee shop. But if I’m in at least a semi private space and it’s not a balls to the wall day, I’ll take not being chained to the desk every time it’s practical.






  • TexasDrunk@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldAlphas.
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    I was stable release male but now I’m no longer supported. So I’m no longer secure, I don’t have the latest features, and I’m something most people don’t want to mess with. However, there’s a certain demographic that thinks I’m pretty great so I’ve got that going for me.




  • No. The difference is “this guy is a problem, get rid of him” and “this is built into this particular system and is sanctioned (implicitly or explicitly) at all levels. To fix it will require bringing people at the highest levels to justice”. And it’s a fair take. Although I absolutely agree that just using the word without criteria is a fucking problem. Many issues we face are because different people and groups of people ain’t working with the same dictionary. Sometimes it’s innocent. Sometimes it’s malicious.

    There is a great example about the word respect. I do not know its definitive origin but it looks to be someone calling themselves AutisticAbby on tumblr.

    "Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”

    and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”

    and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay."





  • I run my own company (a one man operation) contracting technology services primarily to a single business with occasional short contracts to other businesses. My main contract has been the same company for several years. I’ve gained enough trust to say a lot of really blunt shit to C levels.

    That’s the thing. A lot of them want someone to be blunt to them from time to time. If they don’t have that they become unmoored from reality.





  • My grandfather worked in NYC for over 20 years and he commuted by train. During those commutes, he sat next to the same man, twice a day - on the way there and on the way back - for years, and only once in at least a decade did they ever speak to each other. “Are you finished reading that?” Those were the 5 words that man spoke to my grandfather, who handed him the paper he had finished reading, and they never exchanged another word again. I don’t think they ever even looked at each other.

    Best friend he ever had. They still never talk sometimes.


  • A psychopath that doesn’t want to make a habit of drinking at the house because they know it’ll become a problem but doesn’t want to interact with people because they’re going through shit? Possibly a psychopath that gets to drink for free because of the gear loan? A psychopath who wants to watch his gear and take it home with him rather than leaving it in a public place or with a group of drunk musicians overnight?