I wouldn’t presume to say; I’ve never had personal experience with that feeling, but it’s valid, I empathize, and I’m sorry you had to deal with this loss – let alone so close together. The best I think I can say is that there are still sweet, innocent animals just like your kitty and good people just like your best friend who are still with us and who still feel the weight of the world. Like before, I think the best way to honor those who’ve passed is to hold onto the memories you shared together and to use those as your rock while you do good to others like you would’ve done for them and they would’ve done for you. I can’t say for certain you have the power to change your community online and off; I can say you always have the power to do your best.

I hope things get better in your world and in our world, and I’m sure both of your companions would’ve understood how hard things are right now. There are psychological models that deal with “I feel a way, and I don’t want to”, but I’m not a psychologist and never will be, and frigid regurgitation of clinical models at you isn’t, I’m sure, what you or anyone outside a classroom needs.

Just remember at this point that you’re likely to experience a flood of regrets: “I didn’t spend enough time with her”, “Maybe I could’ve saved her if I [convoluted, long-shot scheme you had no way of thinking of]”, “I treated her too harshly”, “I didn’t give her a good enough life in some way”, etc.

Discounting the possibility out of hand you have some serious skeletons in your closet, none of this is true. You’ll want to feel agency over a situation you couldn’t possibly have controlled to any meaningful extent, and when the inevitable is in sight, the only way you may see to express that is to look backward – and when you didn’t do anything wrong, you have to make it that way.

If you experience that, what you might not see in the moment – looking at a present you have minimal control over and a bygone past – is that there is another direction to look. You can look toward the future – to honoring the love, comfort, and companionship she gave your life and sharing that with and finding that in the pets and people in your life going forward.

She knows she’s lucky, and she knows you’re lucky for having had her. You did a good job.

While we were distracted with Iran, Washington and Oregon joined Canada and allowed their army to begin annexing into SoCal. Western Washington/Oregon was cool with it for social reasons; Eastern was cool with it for gas prices.

Reliable source is here (page 81). Imo worth putting on her Wikiquote page; maybe I’ll do that later. (registration wall, but you’ll just have to trust me.)

Flannery O’Connor once received a letter from an old lady who told her that a book of hers, presumably Wise Blood, had “left a bad taste in my mouth.” Her reply to her was " ‘You weren’t supposed to eat it.’ "

No more TP?

You know, I never even considered mattress toppers/mattress height. I appreciate the insight; I’ll keep this in mind the next time I’m searching for a mattress.

Edit: Wait, I’m so stupid. The people talking about the “height” were talking about that height, not the height from header-to-footer. I’m so bad at this; I would’ve considered that “height” to be the depth – looking at the top of the mattress as an x–y plane.

Boy, countries sure are having a problem with not hanging/life-imprisoning (ideally the latter) open, powerful traitors like this.

Its boring and lazy writing.

STOP FLEMIN DA STORY, PREPZ

Its mediocre and needs time travel to work.

My Immortal, a masterpiece in coherent plot, needs time travel to work too. I fail to see the alleged problem here.

Going to be the spoil sport: that’s a consequence of wanting the fitted sheet not to pop off or slide around. I’ve always just gotten the same size as my bed and found no real issues – timing from first correct corner, on in around 60 seconds. If you have a physical disability or accidentally got a sheet that doesn’t match your mattress (I’ve heard height is usually the culprit, but no lived experience here), I could see that changing.

“I remember walking into a 50s-themed diner claiming to offer an ‘authentic experience’ only to get banned when I called the waiter the n-word. Fucking liars.”

Here’s the original article from Mozilla instead of this third-party AI slop regurgitating it.

Persian since Cuisine 1990? Damn.

Anyway, here’s the San Diego restaurant.

Where the shit are you getting this from? It’s not in the article anywhere. The Europol press release these articles are pulling it from doesn’t mention it either. If it’s just vibes, maybe clarify that when you’re commenting under a specific article.

Edit: In fact, the resolution mentioned by the press release says the opposite:

Preventing and combating trafficking in human beings and supporting the victims of trafficking, regardless of their country of origin, remains a priority for the Union and the Member States.

And says nothing about deportation (what the EU would call “return”). That might be possible under 2008/115/EC. But like, ya didn’t cite that specifically or anything, and that resolution establishes rights to apply for asylum. It seems like this is vibes.

Yeah, the argument that this is some kind of problem is silly. We’ve already run the experiment to see it doesn’t happen, and if it somehow becomes a problem (seriously unlikely), jerkface is an active mod and can change in response to community feedback.

That looks pretty cool! Really looking forward to seeing this community get to thrive.

Man, jerkface, I really appreciate you taking on this responsibility, but I’m really wary of a hard pivot to “no adult content”/PEGI 7. I’d even be slightly skeptical toward PEGI 12, but PEGI 7 is pretty restrictive and leaves out really good content that’s non-offensive to social media platforms like Lemmy where users are expected (not formally in LW’s ToS, but nevertheless expected) to be at least 13. (edit: I’m a dummy; I forgot LW’s ToS were 18+. The 13+ assumption was sort of threadiverse-wide, but I totally whiffed the LW-specific part.)

I wouldn’t gripe too much over PEGI 12 and allowing for the NSFW tag for exceptions (because that covers 13+), but PEGI 7 is saying “let’s keep it appropriate for users who shouldn’t even be browsing Lemmy unsupervised”.

Anyway, your diligent moderation is better than beepsville, and I still really appreciate the hard work I know you’re willing to put in.

Then vacuous truth comes into play and all the YouTubers you watch are annoying shitheads.

Technology Contortions? The world’s biggest Wii U fan?

You want me to demonstrate my value by explaining this tried-and-true system to you?