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Cake day: August 8th, 2023

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  • Oh I want those things too. The current size of Lemmy is not my ideal. It’s just really really nice in its current form for me as a unique little nerdy place hidden in plain sight from what most of the internet has become.

    It was more the juxtaposition of how the world needs all these open technologies that people band together to create for the good of all, buuuuut if nobody notices this particular one then that will serve my personal interests. And to be clear I’m not hoping for that or trying to hold it back. Just pointing it out. :)


  • Yep, I’m ready to read the news that this platform surpassed the user base of Lemmy on the first day and never looked back. And I am ready to not be bothered by it.

    Good on them for any pain they inflict on reddit. And I do hope the fediverse takes over the global media landscape because that is better for humanity than corpo-governmental gatekeepers. But if Lemmy’s user base just hangs around in the tens of thousands rather than the tens of millions, I am content.


  • Intellectual laziness really is a big part of the evil that conservatives/nazis put into the world.

    Don’t work on yourself. Go with your gut.

    Don’t question authority. Just go with it.

    Don’t criticize your country. Just be comfortable in the knowledge that it’s the best.

    Don’t spend all that energy processing and handling your base urges. You deserve what you want, and those “other” people really are below you.

    Life is easy. Ignorance is bliss. It’s totally normal that you communicate only via complaints and threats!


  • So are we living in some kind of Bizarro Eternal September?

    Where instead of being flooded with normies, a few dozen thousand of us are walled in behind barriers to entry that the greybeards of old could only imagine.

    It’s like a social experiment that would be unethical if we weren’t all self-selected to be here. Will we flourish or will we go mad?!?

    Given my experiences so far, I’m gonna ride this thing as far as it takes me. Just today I was inspired by a fellow lemming to format my entire hard drive just to switch to a slightly different Linux distro. On my work laptop! :>







  • I’ll proudly wear my Space Nerd badge all day long!

    It does look like an artist’s rendition of the Milky Way galaxy like it’s an alien meme pointing at us. But, wouldn’t you know it, it’s not pointing to the right place. :D

    It looks like we are half way out between the core and the outer rim. (very sci-fi sounding sentence, but I like it)


  • Sorry to take so long to reply! I hope you see this.

    The metaphor I came up with a couple years back when I was still in therapy was that we all have unique individualized instruction manuals for our brains and bodies, but for some cruel reason we do not get a copy.

    Naturally, our two instruction manuals will be very similar in most areas. Needs for nutrition, water, and sleep probably overlap a lot. But maybe lactose will ruin my day and gluten will ruin yours.

    Getting into the realm of mental health, medications, neurodiversity, physical health, personality disorders, and our closest relationships, all of those things interact constantly the complexity just explodes. It is unavoidable that any given person will have to to do some trial and error to craft a lifestyle where they can thrive.

    Unfortunately I think tons of miserable people passively fall into the routine laid before them and don’t even think about what options might be out there. And double unfortunately, society only seems to be more designed to push people in this direction because it’s good for business. Work hard to keep yourself alive, consume to feel something, repeat.

    An important subtext underlying all of this is how our biology is so reactive and adaptive to our environment. Do you want to be better at lifting heavy things? Lift heavy things more often. Do you want to be better at playing the guitar? Play the guitar more often. Do you want to be better at being mindful of what’s actually important to you? Be better about being in a meditative mental state and in control of your mind? All need their respective workouts.

    And it’s never just one silver bullet. That last paragraph sounds pretty chill and zen, and that’s how I am most of the time. I’m not in therapy any longer and I’m good at introspection, but I am still on my medications that keep chemical stuff in balance.

    Some philosophies that really stuck with me:

    Buddhism: meditation and the focus on being able to step back and be an observer of your emotions and sensory inputs and whatnot. It’s a nice framework for exercising whatever you want to call the muscle that lets you be in control of your own mind and understand your reactions better.

    Stoics: the notion that in many cases, things can only hurt us if we let them. We can recognize a problem and solve it, but whether that causes anxiety or dread or excitement in our minds is something we can control.

    And above all: continuous improvement. You aren’t going to read something and fix all your problems. But if you find a tidbit that resonates with you and you do something that makes life 1% better permanently? Huge victory, and a great use of your day!




  • That sounds like me during my decades of raw dogging ADHD and a bouquet of comorbidities.

    It can still be that way for me, but with medication and vigilance and mindfulness and constantly trying to reverse engineer my brain/body’s needs, I had a much more productive 2025 than previous years. (productive at the things I care about, not just becoming a good cog in the machine at work)



  • Yeah, that’s another fun aspect of our culture. Jobs that many people actually want due to what they are passionate about lead to abuse.

    It’s the reason I never seriously considered getting into game development or becoming a teacher.

    I am the rare father involved in the PTO (parent-teacher organization) along with my wife at our kid’s elementary school. We were handing out basic cheap supplies to the teachers last month as a Christmas thing. We’d interrupt the class to give the teacher a SINGLE roll of paper towels and then a small box of tissues or some glue sticks or whatever, and they were excited and grateful every time!


  • Hell yes!

    I love losing my phone in my own damn house and not worrying about it for hours.

    Many times even if I’m listening to music while I do yard work and tend to animals, I’ll leave my phone inside. That’s one nice thing about wireless earbuds with good range. Keep the screen far away. Even if I’m not in the mood I know that looking at trees and pets will produce better results for this brain.

    I’ve been working on reverse engineering the brain requirements for a while, hence the existence of some of that stuff, lol. Straddling the line between still working the tech job while playing retired goose farmer. (no geese here, but various other types of terrestrial and aquatic critters)


  • If you are a user of any mind altering substances, or have any interest in starting, it might be worth giving the movie or show another try in that state. Assuming your chosen goodies leave you coherent and able to form memories, lol.

    And it’s not just to put you in a good mood, though that certainly helps. Maybe it’s just the spicy neurons in my case, but being high can qualitatively change the experience of how I relate to characters. (not extreme like empathy on / empathy off, sometimes things might just land different)