How you would treat a child, how your childhood self should have been treated not how you were treated as a kid. If a kid came up to you with your problems what would you say?
Take the criticism for example. Would you not tell the kid some along the lines of “that sucks, bud. Its not really your fault. I’ve been there and made it through, you can too.”







That is the alleged sentiment I suppose, there’s a difference between tough and abusive that many parents never really figure out. There’s no one type of parenting that is best for all kids. Pulling up by your own bootstraps is a paradoxical statement for a reason.