I’m going to weigh in that this is a case of PTB even if, as some others you could have been more graceful. The role of a moderator is primarily to prevent things from spinning out of control like they did here.

That particular mod left his old home instance after realizing it had some problems, and was acting better for a while, but has been returning to many of his old ways. In particular:

1. He has been getting less and less respectful and inclusive
2. He has not been open minded, which is required for a learning environment
3. He has a eurocentric perspective on genocide and atrocity that ignores that even though pre-colonial societies were not perfect, the current state of the world is a very direct result of an attitude that any one society is more advanced/developed than the others they encounter

i know one person who’s interesting in hosting some queer focused fediverse infrastructure, however they wants no part of the threadiverse since they considers reddit and reddit-alikes to be intrinsically prone to toxicity

@LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone , when your instance is online again let’s have a discussion about what resources i can make available to you that will center your community’s needs without someone like me colonizing the discussion.

(unless i have the wrong ladybutterfly, then my apologies)

i know this isn’t my place as a cis white dude, but can anarchist.nexus be a resource for a women’s space? i’ve been looking for gaps in the threadiverse we could nurture and foster. my #1 concern lately with the makeup of the hegemony of the threadiverse lately has been:

• eurocentricism
• authoritarianism by default
• black and white thinking (see above)
• unchecked and unchallenged mysoginy

my commitment to you as a cis white dude admin would be to stay the fuck out of the way of moderators looking to host a women’s issues community here, within reason. obviously it wouldn’t be okay to break instance rules against bigotry and such, but i can offer my commitment to shutting my mouth and knowing my role

edit: also, i bet @poVoq@slrpnk.net and @ProdigalFrog@slrpnk.net from my second original home instance would be happy to have a women’s issues community hosted on slrpnk.net, i’m still figuring out what my new relationship and responsibility to the threadiverse is now, but i think just like how there’s more than one world news community, there could be more than one women’s issues community so that people have a preferred and fallback space on days like today. the one thing i don’t want to diminish in this comment is the incredible work people like @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone have done in creating a welcoming space on the threadiverse for marginalized people. i just don’t want that to be work that is only done alone. we should be collaborative towards a better, freer, world

your dad is probably the most technically proficient person i’ve heard of. most people i know using slackware are only using it in an enterprise server environment with a team to support it

structural violence is more of the idea that all of the wealth that has been accumulated throughout the millenia has been done first with the sword, then with the lance, then with the gun, and of lately, with the bomb. if we ceased all military action of all kinds tomorrow, the intrinsic status quo would be one reflective of a racist, sexist, homophobic, and transphobic class based hierarchy. in order to challenge that status quo we can’t tolerate anyone who prevents us from challenging these underlying inequitable hegemonies by disrupting the solidarity of the working people.

for real! this should be about how we are on the precipice of letting people with debilitating conditions enjoy their lives and spend time with people they care about instead of immediately saying “just think of the implications for shareholder value!”

for real. it’s 2026. everything with social features is tiktok. instagram, facebook, youtube. they’re all tiktok

that’s when a majority of companies go public to get an influx of cash to do something or another to become profitable.

an ipo for an investor is just a casino game where you’re betting on if the leadership of that company’s plan to attain profitablity will pan out and they’ll still exist in 5 years

epstein class needs fuckable battle twinks

the best thing you can do to resist it i think is make sure the people in your life know you value them for them and not for their aesthetic charm. everyone tell a friend right now that you think they’re funny, or that you apprecieate their kindness, or that you value their perspective, or anything that’s based on their persona and not their physical appearance. and if you are struck by someone’s physical charm, pause, and take a moment to notice their outfit and compliment that instead. their outfit required them to make choices about their personal sense of style

this reminds me of a story. a friend who who underwent HRT and surgical transition early in life with support of her parents. she started dating someone in her mid 20s. he was kind, patient, and gentle to her for the first months of their relationship. then the topic of kids came up. she was upfront with him. “we’d have to adopt. i’m trans” and it was like a lightswitch turned in him. he screamed at her for tricking him and stormed out sticking her with the restaraunt bill. by all of the things that supposedly matter in society, she had done everything right. she was conventionally attractive by femme standards, her physical appearance was so in alignment with femme standards in fact that this secret chud hadn’t even realized she was trans. but still, the moment she couldn’t perform the full societal standard for what it means to be femme presenting, she was met with threats of physical violence, abandoned, and left to fulfill a responsibility that it had been pre-agreed on he would cover.

and i ask you: who tricked who? the trans woman who in 2013 didn’t want to bring up her transness until she knew she was safe, or the man who said he was an ally up until the moment someone he said he loved turned out to require even basic allyship

i’m a huge proponent of Sorry to Bother You. so many themes!

REGROW YOUR HAIR. WORK YOUR MUSCLES LIKE YOU DID WHEN YOU WERE 17 EVEN THOUGH YOU’RE 40. EAT STEAK. YOUR VALUE AS A MASCULINE MALE IS TO PERFORM AGGRESSION, NOT IN YOUR ABILITY TO GROW OUT OF THAT BEHAVIOR

and if you interrogate where that insecurity has its roots, you will often find the answer is a society that constantly subjects women to judgement for their appearance, be that negative or positive judgement. it is simply the experience of being judged. botox, ozempic, plastic surgery, etc all becomes gender affirming care when you are femme in a society that requires femme identifying people to perform the role of disireable sexual object

the original post asks why. the original post also is why

and men have their own experiences with oppositional gaze, too, so we are clear. if you’ve ever heard the phrase “low t” applied to a man in his 30s or later, you have witnessed it