That’s a pretty important callout, especially when catbox specifically has a non-permanent sister site.

You need some therapy. You divorced his dumb ass and you clearly have strong feelings about it still. Trauma is valid, but taking it out on an entire gender isn’t.

The entire point of this sub thread is “this still sometimes happens to guys who aren’t massive piles of shit”, and all of your responses amount to “No, you are all piles of shit! Only piles of shit ever feel this way, so by definition you’re a pile of shit!”

It’s some really disgusting circular logic. There are horrible assholes out there like you say. There’s way too many of them. But you keep making massive assumptions about the commenters here with no evidence whatsoever, then burning the assumptions at the stake as truth.

Just give it a rest. I’m truly sorry your ex was terrible, and it sounds like divorce was letting him off easy.

Jesus christ you just can’t stop. I’m not an incel and I’m not any of the other unhinged shit you’re spouting now. Go take your meds.

Holy shit I really got to you didn’t I?

I saw you made two responses to my comment showing you were wrong. I knew you were big mad, but this is hysterical. I didn’t realize you were having a full on breakdown outside our little sub-comment chain.

You’re yapping an awful lot about “I have hot sex with my wife” for a guy supposedly happy, stable, and a better husband than the rest of us InCeLs. Thanks man, you’ve just made the next couple days for me.

Edit: For context, this guy called me an incel and heavily implied I had no idea what the fuck I was talking about. I clapped back with a picture of my hand, wedding ring, my toddler’s foot, and a hand written timestamped note telling him to go fuck himself. He’s been flying off the handle making absurd accusations since.

Is that middle one supposed to be someone who died while kissing a decapitated head they propped up in a urinal? Wow.

I don’t think you know me at all, and you need to stop attacking shadows.

Is that enough evidence for you? My hand with my wedding ring, a few of my daughter’s toes at the top, and an old school style hand written timestamped note.

My two year old daughter has been having awful allergies since last night, when I slept on the floor in her room so I could comfort her when she kept waking up coughing throughout the night despite having doctor approved antihistamines, some “all natural”/home remedy cough syrup, and an albuterol rescue inhaler. I used the snot sucker, warm water to help cut the mucus, kept her propped up to help with breathing and mucus drainage. My wife got a full night of rest. No baby monitor, no interruptions.

This morning I’m also solo for around four and a half hours while my wife goes and does a weekly thing that helps keep her real passion (that she can’t do for a living unfortunately) alive.

I’m not looking for an award for doing the husband and father thing. I’m not expecting anything from her for this, and I’m not expecting anything from the internet or the comment section at large. I don’t need fucking “good boy points”.

What I need is for chucklefucks like you to just fucking stop. Stop telling every man with issues in their relationship that it is always without a doubt their fault. That they clearly don’t understand. That they’re having unreasonable expectations. That there is absolutely 0% chance they’re anything but wrong. Just take a step back and leave room for not even bare minimum understanding or sympathy, but just keeping your damn mouth shut if all you have is throwing shade.

Long as we’re throwing the “I’m actually a better more understanding husband than you and you don’t understand childbirth” shit around, let me slap my metaphorical cock on the table.

My wife hemorrhaged two thirds of the blood in her body during childbirth. The first moments of holding my child were struck through with concern that I was losing my wife. The nurses had the god damn crash cart ready.

Your insight into the birthing process is not unique.

I’ll say it again. This entire subthread has been born from the condition “what if the man wasn’t a shitpile”, and 90% of the responses have been bunch of people incapable of accepting that as a possibility, building strawmen, and then don quixote-ing themselves into a sense of moral superiority. Just fucking stop.

I think your point about differing needs is really the core of all of the friction. At least when we’re not talking about the worthless kind of husband demanding shit and not actually being present etc.

I can only speak for myself, but the presence or lack of physical intimacy has a massive effect on whether or not I feel: valued, appreciated, or desired in a relationship. Lack makes me start thinking things like “Am I your partner, or just the provider^tm? Do you actually want me around when I’m not providing value, doing things for you? Is this a job or a relationship? Are you no longer attracted to me? Do you even really want to be near me, spend time with me?”

And note I keep using the phrase “physical intimacy”. I’m not a prude, if I meant sex I’d say it directly. That’s part, but not all of it.

When we potato on the couch, has it literally been months since my partner sat next to or leaned on me? Are they literally sitting on the opposite side, as far as they can possibly get away? Ok, is it a “I don’t feel safe” thing? No, they’ll sit with me when I ask, or when I go to them, but never of their own accord.

Stuff like that builds up over time, and personally, when I talk about stuff like this I’m talking patterns of behaviour over years, not “wah wah I couldn’t get the nookie when she was trying to figure out how to get a newborn to sleep through the night”.

So it’s infuriating when the horde comes out to insist the only reason there could possibly be problems is if the guy is a shitpile, and that there’s always layers upon layers for why it’s never okay for a man to feel anything about a lack of physical intimacy. For fucks sake I do my part, I do everything I can to meet her emotional and other needs. Am I not allowed to feel like I’m being treated as a roommate rather than a partner? Am I not allowed to feel like I’m not desired? What about my own emotional needs? No, because so many shitpile men exist I guess.

That is a complete and total strawman. No one has said anything about such clearly unreasonable shit like wanting sex immediately after a newborn, or while the woman is recovering/post-partum/etc.

How is anyone supposed to have a calm and respectful conversation about this stuff when the moment you even brush up against it slightly, the “men are all horrible awful pigs and it’s all their fault” brigade comes out in full force?

I’m sorry so very many people have encountered so many god awful men as they have. I am, as best as I can, doing what I can to not be one of them.

And there are still intimacy issues in my relationship. Am I not allowed to talk about this because so many men have been awful that it’s just verboten? Fuck everything about that.

Please reread the chain of comments. This is specifically about situations where there is respect, involvement with child rearing, and with household running/chores/etc.

In case anyone isn’t aware, there’s a big project to remaster/restore Reboot at the highest quality possible. They have multiple master tape copies for every episode, and for a ton of promo material, ads, etc. Huge, technically deep, and amazing project. The first few episodes are already out on youtube, but they also just released a documentary about the whole process.

This is a severely under-discussed consequence of modern culture distancing family “connections”.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s only about 4 people on my side of the extended family I actually miss, and 3 on my wife’s side. That’s being generous. But not having that reliable help if you don’t have an absolutely amazing social group makes raising a kid through early childhood an absolute slog.

Long as it’s still the man’s fault for desiring intimacy, am I right or am I right ladies?

The assumption that it’s always a neglectful husband causing marital issues is incredibly demoralizing, especially when the response to “but what if it isn’t a neglectful husband” is this sort of thing. Just more reasons why the man is the one being unreasonable.

Look, no man is “owed” their wife’s affections or physical intimacy. But it is often an important piece of an adult romantic relationship, and it’s not unreasonable for a member of that relationship to have some feelings about things changing over time, or suddenly for that matter.

I’d rather have a fiveskin. Imagine how much stuff you could carry at the nudist beach!

The exact tone I originally read it in, lol.

Slow mind, that child

Also, at least it’s not AI

A big part of the game is slowly figuring out what combination of weapon and boons suit you best, and what combos you can struggle through but don’t really prefer. Then you start making the best of what you get.

I definitely wasn’t winning runs in a week. You’re trying to escape the afterlife, it’s going to be hard and grueling. I have over 100 runs and the last “zone” with the Satyrs still does me in more than I’d like. Of course, I also almost always take the risks for more rewards. The trick is that I still have fun each run regardless.

At some point I did some runs focused on specific types of meta currency to grind out certain tavern upgrades, or to push through specific character’s storylines by gifting them nectar. Don’t sleep on the meta-progression and all the “side stories”. It helps break up the repetition.

As you die, and die, and die some more you’ll build your own skills, unlock some more tools through meta-progression mechanics, and unlock more of the story (and stories) almost every run whether you win or lose.

As you gift characters nectar it can effect dialog in other places and even unlock some entirely new mechnics and options during your runs.

It might not be the game for you, but it’s also not made to be blazed through and then put down. Take your time with it. Go for the challenges rather than trying to just get to the end, because the real ending is a lot farther away than you realize. You do a run or two, unlock some new story. Unlock more story a few times and you unlock a new mechanic or a hint towards a bigger thing.

So take your time. Enjoy the journey. It’s more rewarding if you take the time to engage with things on your way, even if this whole escape thing might be temporary until you get out. You’re dying enough anyway, may as well make some friends. Chat up Sisyphus, and don’t forget Bouldy either. He’s a good listener. Take on Chaos’s challenges. Did you know she’s Nyx’s mom? Why don’t they talk about each other and why have you never seen Chaos come to visit? Try to mend the bad blood between Orpheus and Eurydice. Do you want a canon bi polycule? You can do that. Want to try and teach the nearly non-verbal fury your name? You can do that too. Best to make the best of this trying to escape and ending up back at the start thing.

So you beat Hades. Now what? He’ll be back before long, just like you are when you die. What do you think he’s going to do then? Just let you go because you killed him? You didn’t let your death stop you, why would he for his?

Beating the final boss multiple times is needed to get the ending, but it’s just another step in the path. It takes multiple wins and doing side stuff (that you’re hopefully getting through naturally just as you play) to get to “the epilogue”, and you unlock one new god for and entire new “tree” of boons after your first win.

And when it gets too annoying throwing yourself at it another time, take a break and come back to it later.

Found the context: https://lemmy.world/comment/23272922

You can block them so you don’t have to see it.

If what they’re doing is egregious, against community or instance rules, stalking, harassing, etc you can report them which notifies the mods of the community the post or comment is in, the admins of the instance of the community the post or comment is in, and the admins of the user’s instance.

Edit: Found the context- https://lemmy.world/comment/23272922

If you feel that he implied you were a pedophile, and he disagrees, then fucking report it to mods/admins and let them sort it. I’m not seeing anything but bog standard responses to some of your posts that you respond to with your little copy pasted message. I could understand if they kept making references to it, but I don’t see where it’s been brought up where you didn’t.

Just report and block and move on with your life.

I mean, you were staring at him for no reason before he started talking. You should give him a tip for giving you a show!

Large tracts of land… downright abundant natural resources…

Hold up. You know Moon, that guy always following her around?

Yeah, annoying little orbiter blocks most of what comes her way.

Heard him saying she’s got something real nasty going on. Kind of thing you can’t just take something for a month and make it go away. He’s already having flare ups, scared it’s gonna get worse.

The hell are you talking about?

Bro, she’s got… humans. Why did you think Mars always tenses up while she’s around? You’ve gotta start paying better attention to shit like this.