The joke is deliberately horrible, but if you’ve ever been infodumped by a kid with pressured speech who can’t organise their thoughts and you have auditory processing issues it’s also horribly relatable, a bit.
Oh my gosh you’ve just put words to the speech affliction I’ve suffered with for decades. Pressured speech, can’t organize thoughts, also speaking in stream of consciousness.
Maybe? I didn’t mean any offense, buddies are any gender for me and anyone can be like my kid, who happens to be a lad. At least until I’m notified to the contrary…
People are allowed to be particular about pronouns. I just tagged that account she/her, it’s not a hill unless we make it one. Helps if they do that themselves, but I can hardly criticise.
I know it sounds weird for me to complain every time someone assumes I’m a man, but if you’re a man, how would you feel if everyone on the internet automatically assumed you’re a woman? Calling you she & her & ma’am & sweetheart & lady. That would feel pretty weird, wouldn’t it?
That’s how I feel when people call me dude, bro, bud, lad, etc 🤷🏼♀️
Your username gives no indication that you’re a woman and this site is overwhelmingly male. I’m never surprised when someone guesses I’m a man when we’re conversing initially. It’s not like the greatest thing in the world, but most people here are not misgendering me on purpose.
He didn’t call you a “lad”, he said you might have ADHD like his lad aka his son.
Bud feels like a pretty gender neutral term compared to dude, man, brother, etc.
I didn’t think either of us were particularly bent out of shape about it, pretty minor misunderstanding. I feel like we can all walk away friends unless we try to litigate this? I dunno
On a scale of 0 to 10 of how upset I am about this, it’s a zero. It’s just that in real life I am unmistakably woman with a light soft voice and long curly hair and I wear pink dresses and it’s really weird for me on the internet when people call me bud and bro and dude.
Again I cannot emphasize enough how weird it feels, just like it would feel weird for a man to be called lady and sweetie pie and honey and she and her 🤷🏼♀️
and it did not occur to me to make a username to emphasize my gender, I made this username in a wild frenzy haste and gave it no thought whatsoever, but I do recall one time I did have a username that emphasized my femininity, and receiving a lot of uncalled for harassment from that. It’s ridiculous. It’s just my comfort zone relaxing on places like Lemmy after I’m exhausted from my daily life, I just want to hang out here and relax. And not be called a dude every time 😂
Oh same, same. I’ve seen plenty of instances of hostile sexism on this site and your reply was decidedly not hostile, so I was a little surprised at the push back. That’s all.
Omg, i once listened to my kid talk for about 3 hours on that a few years back. It broke my heart that his computer could barely run it. Now he has the computer to end all computers.
The joke is deliberately horrible, but if you’ve ever been infodumped by a kid with pressured speech who can’t organise their thoughts and you have auditory processing issues it’s also horribly relatable, a bit.
Oh my gosh you’ve just put words to the speech affliction I’ve suffered with for decades. Pressured speech, can’t organize thoughts, also speaking in stream of consciousness.
Sorry bud. Might be a bit of the old ADHD, if you’re anything like my charming young lad
If you knew I’m a woman would you have called me “bud” and anything like a “lad?”
Maybe? I didn’t mean any offense, buddies are any gender for me and anyone can be like my kid, who happens to be a lad. At least until I’m notified to the contrary…
This is kind of a weird hill to die on, ngl.
People are allowed to be particular about pronouns. I just tagged that account she/her, it’s not a hill unless we make it one. Helps if they do that themselves, but I can hardly criticise.
Not so much a criticism as trying to point out that you weren’t being malicious in your comment.
I know it sounds weird for me to complain every time someone assumes I’m a man, but if you’re a man, how would you feel if everyone on the internet automatically assumed you’re a woman? Calling you she & her & ma’am & sweetheart & lady. That would feel pretty weird, wouldn’t it?
That’s how I feel when people call me dude, bro, bud, lad, etc 🤷🏼♀️
I’m a woman to start.
Your username gives no indication that you’re a woman and this site is overwhelmingly male. I’m never surprised when someone guesses I’m a man when we’re conversing initially. It’s not like the greatest thing in the world, but most people here are not misgendering me on purpose.
He didn’t call you a “lad”, he said you might have ADHD like his lad aka his son.
Bud feels like a pretty gender neutral term compared to dude, man, brother, etc.
I didn’t think either of us were particularly bent out of shape about it, pretty minor misunderstanding. I feel like we can all walk away friends unless we try to litigate this? I dunno
On a scale of 0 to 10 of how upset I am about this, it’s a zero. It’s just that in real life I am unmistakably woman with a light soft voice and long curly hair and I wear pink dresses and it’s really weird for me on the internet when people call me bud and bro and dude.
Again I cannot emphasize enough how weird it feels, just like it would feel weird for a man to be called lady and sweetie pie and honey and she and her 🤷🏼♀️
and it did not occur to me to make a username to emphasize my gender, I made this username in a wild frenzy haste and gave it no thought whatsoever, but I do recall one time I did have a username that emphasized my femininity, and receiving a lot of uncalled for harassment from that. It’s ridiculous. It’s just my comfort zone relaxing on places like Lemmy after I’m exhausted from my daily life, I just want to hang out here and relax. And not be called a dude every time 😂
Oh same, same. I’ve seen plenty of instances of hostile sexism on this site and your reply was decidedly not hostile, so I was a little surprised at the push back. That’s all.
I’ve learned so much about Subnautica. So, so much.
Omg, i once listened to my kid talk for about 3 hours on that a few years back. It broke my heart that his computer could barely run it. Now he has the computer to end all computers.
I think there’s a new one coming out soon. Prepare your ears lol