So I made a very dumb mistake. I have been using hair removal cream for the last month or so and getting good results. My skin was handling it well and the grow-back was much softer and slower than shaving. Good times.

Yesterday I didn’t time it correctly and left it on certain areas too long. I didn’t realise that 2-6 minutes was a strict upper range and that it’s dangerous to leave it on longer.

So yeah, I took too long and now I have a very unpleasant chemical burn on both my ass cheeks. I had to cancel plans so I can sit inside with my butt in air while it heals.

Setbacks like this have really thrown me into downward spirals in the past, and I was very upset at first, but I’m trying to move past it, see the funny side, and pick myself up.

Early transition can feel a lot like you’re fumbling around in the dark sometimes. I wish I had a community-assigned trans mentor with me at all times to gently warn me when I’m about to do something stupid.

Alternatively, maybe some of you have some similar mistakes that you can look back and smile or laugh at now, and maybe if you share them I can feel less like a dumb idiot while I wait for my ass to cool off.

  • Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
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    6 days ago

    The place I live is accepting but judgemental, if that makes sense.

    Yeah i think so. Not inherently hateful, but somewhat conservative around how everybody ought to comport themselves? Meaning they’ll accept you for who you are, as long as nobody is too “extra” about it? If true, then that’s not great, but also not terrible. I wish for you that you could present exactly as you would like to and that people would mind their own fucking business about things that dont affect or concern them. But that doesn’t change your reality.

    Maybe once in a while, if it’s something you want, you might find a chance to take a night off from being sensible, some time or place where it doesn’t impact anyone else, and you can dork out and enjoy it. I respect that you are always thinking about your kids feelings though. That’s being a good mom <3.

    • Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5·
      6 days ago

      It’s more of a "I don’t necessarily like it and will say hurtful things behind their back but believe they should have a legal right and am able to keep my opinions to myself for the sake of civility. Norwegians are very conflict avoidant except for their neighbours.