There’s an entire subset of people who consider any sort of direct criticism, no matter how valid and polite to be a personal attack. “Can you please do the dishes” means “you forgot to do the dishes and me reminding you is directly pointing out your failures” and see that as directly calling them a failure. This sort of thing might work on these types, who also tend to be incredibly passive aggressive.
Source: I’m very unhappy married to one of these people
There’s an entire subset of people who consider any sort of direct criticism, no matter how valid and polite to be a personal attack. “Can you please do the dishes” means “you forgot to do the dishes and me reminding you is directly pointing out your failures” and see that as directly calling them a failure. This sort of thing might work on these types, who also tend to be incredibly passive aggressive.
Source: I’m very unhappy married to one of these people
So am I, but we separated last month.
And I’m feeling nothing but relief.