That’s sounds very passive-aggressive tbh.
“Patrick forgot to do the dishes again”
“Oh, really? Well, maybe Patrick is too busy with his WORK?! You know? Maybe someone else could do the dishes instead.”
“Oh, yeah? So maybe Patrick should provide to this house? What does he do again? OH, RIGHT, SELLING CAKES! You know what? I’m gonna quit the CIA coz Patrick’s job is soooooo important so I can do the chores instead of him!”
I mean, they’re getting relationship advice from Tiktok
Instead of “You didn’t do the dishes again”, you could also say “Can you please do the dishes?”, which gets the same point across without the passive aggressive accusation.
If you want to avoid a confrontation altogether, use an I message.
“I would like you to do the dishes.”
Then the ball’s in their court. They can do them or not, but they make their own informed decision.
There’s an entire subset of people who consider any sort of direct criticism, no matter how valid and polite to be a personal attack. “Can you please do the dishes” means “you forgot to do the dishes and me reminding you is directly pointing out your failures” and see that as directly calling them a failure. This sort of thing might work on these types, who also tend to be incredibly passive aggressive.
Source: I’m very unhappy married to one of these people
So am I, but we separated last month.
And I’m feeling nothing but relief.
If the dishes need to be done, and I have time. I do the dishes.
If my non-platonic roommate notices the dishes need to be done, and they have time, they do the dishes.
Basically, unless it’s a pretty complicated task that only one of us is proficient in, whoever is available just does it.
Sure, but you can’t just expect people to behave like mature adults. That’s fucking ridiculous, come on, now. We need to explore alternative communication methods on Tiktok to find a better solution.
I’ve tried rotating and splitting tasks (I do the dishes, then you do the dishes, or I start the dishes then you finish) without much luck. What seems to work well is dividing entire tasks. I do the cooking, dishes, and any outside work, you do the laundry. It works well with our differing schedules and there’s no need to keep track of what part of a task someone else has done or not done.
That doesn’t fix someone not doing their assigned task, of course.
Yeah, when you live together, on top of being a couple, you’re also a team.
You have the common goal to put food on the table and keep the home nice.
Teams work best if you divide up responsibilities, and let each person be fully responsible for their tasks.
The person in blue fucked their own brother?
Took me a second. Much better joke than I thought.
Nice username OP
In my house we have the Dish Fairy. Its always exciting when she’s paid us a visit.
Gotta copy that, thank you!
This is unfair to the Patricks of the world!
And also just really bad relationship advice
To fuck someone’s brother?
Depends. Many men are the brother of someone.
That, too.
It’s Gremlins who cause the chaos in my household. But also, I’d like to find out more about this long lost and formerly unknown brother of mine.
Yay, my account had contributed to Lemmy lore.
Waiting to have an entry one day in a obsecure Lemmy wiki/fandom.
You are famous 🎉🎉
I deleted my post to not have duplicates, I think it’s enough to have only one version up.
