Isn’t a large part of violence from children in schools a result of parental negligence and lack of third spaces for children?

I’ve heard a lot of teachers having difficulty communicating with parents on how to address issues with their children’s education. Not just with violence but with how severely behind in the curriculum most of them seem to be. Kid’s that are years behind where they should be at their current grade.

Parents meet these concerns with a dismissive or hostile attitude, pushing for their children to be able to pass into the next grade regardless of how behind they are. The students come to class bolstered to have little respect for their teacher and act as they please.

And outside of the classroom these kids are limited to where they can go and what they can do. It’s expensive to have access to a third space in the real world unless your area is well funded to provide that. They resort to spending time online and that only partially addresses their developmental needs regarding socialization with others and what that entails. It can also reinforce negative traits if they find the wrong kind of guidance there.

The kids that want to learn and enjoy school are frustrated with this as well, not just the teachers. Any time I encounter a kid in online spaces they always have a lot to say about poor learning conditions and rampant vandalism in their schools from aggressive classmates. Many have expressed they are considered the smartest of their classes but they know they are average at best and yearn to see other students above their level to bounce ideas off of. They are also lonely because they can’t relate to their peers and have to resort to speaking to people online.

I’ve encountered the disruptive ones in these spaces as well and I always try to be mindful of the fact that they’re minds are not fully developed so immaturity is to be expected but they are concerning to be around. I can’t articulate it adequately here but it’s… more extreme? Perhaps these kids are hyping up their personal escapades but when I reflect it with the information the other children tell me it’s quite concerning…

It’s difficult to guide them towards better coping strategies for their boredom unless you somehow manage to gain their respect. I don’t want to babysit kids online but I’m finding I have to. If one of the rude kids comes to respect me and I just ignore their problematic behaviours then it feels like I’m enabling it. They need frequent guidance that I am not equipped nor feel comfortable to provide.

TLDR This feels like such a multifaceted problem from my perspective. The government has A LOT to address if they want to fix this problem.

The sheer lack of social programs or anything to address the causes of violence is fucking incredible. All they will talk about is harsher penalties and more gun control but never care for anything else.

constant distraction and zero reprocussions, yea, you’re gonna get some bored kids that will resort to violence