• amniotic druid@lemmy.world
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    11時間前

    Neither one is someone I want to talk to but grey really should’ve just put the phone down and focused on that promising opportunity

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      I hope they got in such a tizzy over this that it ruined their “plans with someone else” cause they showed up all sour.

      Dating culture is so toxic, I’m glad it’s just me and my cat these days…

    • Sheridan@lemmy.world
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      9時間前

      I don’t think grey actually has another “opportunity”. This feels like a negging tactic to me.

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          If I understand it correctly, it’s the use of negative framing of another person’s physical attributes or demeanor, constructed in the hope the receiver of the “negging” has low enough self-esteem to agree with the assessment and will assume the asshole is a person of higher intrinsic worth.

          There might be more to it, but I usually just think of it as a form of reverse psychology + emotional abuse.

    • Tyrq@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      7時間前

      Green has a decent counter play against being snubbed first, but it surely is a dick move versus just saying “okay, cheers”.

      However, we humans do crave drama, and I’ve been entertained, so I think in the grand scheme of things, as a miniature Shakespearean tragic comedy, I will allow for it to be cosmically more good than bad. Perhaps they both learned something. Or it’s all fake ¯\_(ツ)_/¯