• JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    10 hours ago

    If they don’t stretch out, then why do some doctors offer complimentary tightening surgery on postpartum mothers?

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      Ouch. That is so fucked up. I am older and have been structurally tight (skin too tight at opening) sex hurts when it goes on too long. The “husband stitch” is abusive. And doctors do it because they do episiotomy, which is also awful because that cut doesn’t heal as well as a repaired natural tear and you might not tear at all.

      Complimentary tightening surgery my ass. That doesn’t help mothers at all.

      Rehab with kegels does help and obviously if you tear, a repair. The midwife recommended working up to fisting before having a baby and man I wish I had taken that advice.

      But being tight right at the opening of the vagina just hurts, there is no advantage to it.

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      They don’t stretch out from having a dick put in them. But giving birth is literally a physically traumatic event. Ligiments get slack so bones can shift around, and it is not uncommon for the flesh around the vagina to experience significant tearing. The whole thing is quite horrifying. Post pregnancy medical procedures may be necessary not just to have a tight pussy, but to be able to not constantly be peeing yourself.

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        12 hours ago

        litigation

        🤣

        What’s sexist about perpetuating the idea that vaginas do or don’t stretch out? Or what’s sexist about doctors offering to tighten up stretched vaginas? Please explain.

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          It’s called “the husband stitch” becase because it was done for the husbands pleasure, not for the wife’s medical needs, often without the wife’s consent. It also might cause sex to be more painful for the woman, even as it was more pleasurable for the man; which is too bad for the woman, because her husband had a legal right to rape her in the United States until the 1970s.

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          The only thing dumber than your comments is the Piefed decision to replace the downvote button with an emoji button that doesn’t load until just before I try to click the close button.

          Sexist men tell women they have loose vaginas to try and shame them for their sex organs. Arguing it’s true is also sexist.