• OldQWERTYbastard@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    Fine. I fucked up and married an asexual woman because she was the first person to ever show me genuine affection and I royally fucked up.

    Sucks to be me! No kids, at least.

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      I’m asexual and I deserve love too! I married another asexual lady and it’s great. Neither of us have to do things we don’t want to.

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      If it helps I didn’t marry an asexual woman and I still get none.

      Sucks to be me, plus a kid!

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      What is wrong with genuine affection? The least of us are that lucky. Sex you can have with everyone and get it everywhere. You can even buy it, if you want. But love and affection is a rare commodity you can’t enforce or buy or…

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        I don’t want to try it. Don’t even want to hear about it. Don’t even have functioning genitals on account of being intersex. I thought I was horny once, but that was just when Rush Limbaugh died.

        Some people tell me, “well, you haven’t had the right dick or pussy yet!” And I always reply, “and you haven’t had the right arsenic yet, keep trying different kinds.”

        Turns out that the wizard powers for being a forty year old virgin only apply if one ever had the option or desire to lose the virginity in the first place.

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          “I thought I was horny once, but that was just when Rush Limbaugh died.”

          Immortal words, my friend. I commend their beauty.

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        ooh, ooh! Ace here. I went through a period where sex was my special interest. I went deep down the research rabbit hole, learned all about sex toys and methods and safer sex techniques. Had willing partners.

        At the end of the day, sex is boring and no one is hot/of an attracting gender. I guess it’s like if you were a super straight man and everyone else was men? I don’t know.

        Now I’m into knitting and kumihimo.

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        It depends on the person. Some asexual people can be quite sexually active because they don’t mind or enjoy helping with their partner’s sexual needs even though they’re not directly interested.

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        How many times can you do that?

        Yeah sure, few times to find out what the fuzz is about and then move on. Do you have any idea how many times people have sex in a relationship, a lot more than just a few times.

        Just for clarification, I’m not ace or at least haven’t accepted it and just have difficulties with libido and remembering that I’m supposed to have sex.

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          Ace people can actually still have a strong libido! It’s more about sexual attraction.

          Of course, others are straight up repulsed by even the thought of sex. It’s a wide spectrum.

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            Yeah, they’re the lucky ones of the cursed spectrum. At least that can be taken advantage of even if there’s no direct target for it.

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      Dont worry, as parents you wouldn’t (want) to see action either. You get up, handle your offspring, go to work, gethome to just handle the offspring again. Depending if they had mid-day sleep you may be allowed to do chores starting 19-23pm. Actually working is more relaxing than being 100% of the time on adrenaline because your toddler tries to hurt themselves all the time. You just lack energy for romance. Trying for a second is a chore.