I originally meant to reply to the “look nice enough to be accepted” sentiment, but ADHD butchered it front to back and impulse control didn’t catch it.

My half-finished thought was that you should wear what makes you happy instead of wondering whether you “look nice enough”. Basically, trying to reassure / validate you that you look nice as you are.

Then I remembered that many people hold others to some arbitrary standars of how they have to look and lamented that. That reasoning probably should have made me scrap the first part because it kinda contradicts it.

Then I felt I should emphasise that “to be accepted” shouldn’t depend on being “enough” by any standard. I’m not entirely sure in retrospect what point I was going for with that either.

All in all, it was a chaotic train of thought, unfinished, phrased with the eloquence of sleep-deprived AuDHD and posted without overthinking it. Sorry.

I don’t think there’s a good way to salvage it, probably shouldn’t have posted it, but I did and so I’ll leave it up for context’s sake.