Off topic, but what do I do when my kids go through their first break up? I never asked my parents for romantic advice—which I think is quite common in Asian families such as mine—so I would have no idea what to say if one day one of my boys came to me crying about some stupid little girl that broke their hearts. Any Lemmy dads with sound advice?
One of my first jobs was an Avid tutor where we give guided tutoring to the students. We’re not allowed to show them how to do something we have to ask them guided questions like “what do your notes say about that?” Or “when the problem says this, what’s the next step your teacher told you to take?”
I thought it was stupid at the time but now that I’m an adult I find myself using it in normal conversations. It’s helps people get out of their head and kind of look at a problem head on and keeps you from yapping. It doesn’t really work with my 5 year old but my 8 year old it works really well. Try doing this with any issue they have and you’ll help them a lot
don’t give them advice. just listen to them. don’t try to ‘fix’ things. just allow them to figure it out on their own.
I have teenager nephews who have had a few teenager relationships. The best thing was to let them process and come to their own conclusions. that way they figure out there are no ‘easy’ answers to any of this, but there are lessons to be learned.
Thanks friend. I was scared that I would do the ol’, “you know when I was your age…” I’ll definitely listen and acknowledge their feelings without judging or trying to correct them.
also, realize that shit’s crazy for kids these days. the level of bullshit kids have to deal with these days is pretty wild, and the bullying never stops thanks to smart phones. when i was a kid if you had issues or conflicts at school… they stopped once you left the building. Today it’s not like that.
Off topic, but what do I do when my kids go through their first break up? I never asked my parents for romantic advice—which I think is quite common in Asian families such as mine—so I would have no idea what to say if one day one of my boys came to me crying about some stupid little girl that broke their hearts. Any Lemmy dads with sound advice?
One of my first jobs was an Avid tutor where we give guided tutoring to the students. We’re not allowed to show them how to do something we have to ask them guided questions like “what do your notes say about that?” Or “when the problem says this, what’s the next step your teacher told you to take?”
I thought it was stupid at the time but now that I’m an adult I find myself using it in normal conversations. It’s helps people get out of their head and kind of look at a problem head on and keeps you from yapping. It doesn’t really work with my 5 year old but my 8 year old it works really well. Try doing this with any issue they have and you’ll help them a lot
got show that horse where the water is, so to speak.
don’t give them advice. just listen to them. don’t try to ‘fix’ things. just allow them to figure it out on their own.
I have teenager nephews who have had a few teenager relationships. The best thing was to let them process and come to their own conclusions. that way they figure out there are no ‘easy’ answers to any of this, but there are lessons to be learned.
Thanks friend. I was scared that I would do the ol’, “you know when I was your age…” I’ll definitely listen and acknowledge their feelings without judging or trying to correct them.
also, realize that shit’s crazy for kids these days. the level of bullshit kids have to deal with these days is pretty wild, and the bullying never stops thanks to smart phones. when i was a kid if you had issues or conflicts at school… they stopped once you left the building. Today it’s not like that.