This is well known to be false, and is probably just a reflection of your own experiences.
Boys’ bullying tends to be more direct, physical, and in-group/out-group oriented. Eg, the football team calls the fat kid a nerd and shoves him in a locker.
Girls’ bullying tends to be indirect, social, and oriented around group heirarchy. Eg, The popular girl who spreads a rumor about another popular girl’s promiscuity.
I don’t want to diminish the painful experiences many have had with the more masculine form of bullying - but the upside is that if you want it to stop, there is an obvious solution. Conform and perform. If you’re a nerd getting bullied by the football team, you can stop getting bullied by becoming a good football player. If you are being bullied in the feminine way, however, you might not even know it. And if you do, there is not a well-defined way to stop it.
This is well known to be false, and is probably just a reflection of your own experiences.
Boys’ bullying tends to be more direct, physical, and in-group/out-group oriented. Eg, the football team calls the fat kid a nerd and shoves him in a locker.
Girls’ bullying tends to be indirect, social, and oriented around group heirarchy. Eg, The popular girl who spreads a rumor about another popular girl’s promiscuity.
I don’t want to diminish the painful experiences many have had with the more masculine form of bullying - but the upside is that if you want it to stop, there is an obvious solution. Conform and perform. If you’re a nerd getting bullied by the football team, you can stop getting bullied by becoming a good football player. If you are being bullied in the feminine way, however, you might not even know it. And if you do, there is not a well-defined way to stop it.