• blarghly@lemmy.world
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    4 hours ago

    D/s kink. Girl wants to “date up” - dating a guy who is superior to her. The guy she wants has lots of other options with women, and so is not very interested in her. So she has to work to win him over and prove that - even though she is average in every way (except for being smokin hot), actually deep down inside in some way that doesnt manifest in the real world at all, she is the most specialist girl in the whole wide world.

    But she can only maintain this fantasy as long as he plays his role of not being interested in her until she has proved herself. In Anon’s case, he’s autistic, and so initially ignored her. Then his attempts at “flirting” were cold and stone-faced, showing he has only a small amount of interest but he still needs to be convinced. But then Anon broke the fantasy by asking her out before she had “proved” herself.

    Anon’s biggest problem was not being attractive enough to have lots of other girls intersted in him so he would actually not care if this girl liked him. If he did this instead, he would both improve his odds with this girl without even trying, and also not care if she decided she actually didn’t like him.

    • FireRetardant@lemmy.world
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      3 hours ago

      No one is more convinced that you can pull women than a woman whom is attracted to you. Now you just gotta live up to that fantasy even if IRL most women wouldn’t give you the time of day.