Yeah that’s something I think women are slowly learning how to rewire their brains around because, just like how popular culture shaped how men approached women, the same popular culture (and internalized misogyny) taught women that asking for consent is not sexy.
This appears to be changing from what I’ve read in various comments on audio porn geared towards women and also just from conversation with other women. I totally used to think asking for consent “ruined the mood”, and now with more knowledge I think there are many ways to ask for consent in a sexy way.
My favourite is to play a slight d/s game and make someone tell me what they want using their words (i also like it used on me). It’s a bit of a tease but people like it. And you get enthusiastic consent (I consider begging to be pretty enthusiastic).
I think these women who are saying it ruined the mood have some shit to work through, because you should be encouraged to ask for consent.
Yeah that’s something I think women are slowly learning how to rewire their brains around because, just like how popular culture shaped how men approached women, the same popular culture (and internalized misogyny) taught women that asking for consent is not sexy.
This appears to be changing from what I’ve read in various comments on audio porn geared towards women and also just from conversation with other women. I totally used to think asking for consent “ruined the mood”, and now with more knowledge I think there are many ways to ask for consent in a sexy way.
My favourite is to play a slight d/s game and make someone tell me what they want using their words (i also like it used on me). It’s a bit of a tease but people like it. And you get enthusiastic consent (I consider begging to be pretty enthusiastic).
I think these women who are saying it ruined the mood have some shit to work through, because you should be encouraged to ask for consent.