• Banana@sh.itjust.works
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    2 hours ago

    I feel like we are basically the same hahaha. I’m a lil freak but as far as monogamy goes im very basic but im also surrounded by people in poly/open relationships. I get asked frequently whether my partner and I are open hahaha, it’s a really good compliment tho!

    You may be onto something with the ADHD thing. I find neurodivergent folks tend to find each other, and I’ve been diagnosed ASD (previously Aspergers) since I was 6 years old, but I’ve watched many friends be diagnosed as we get older lol, so there’s some merit to that thought.

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      44 minutes ago

      Lol, it is funny how us weirdos always seem to find one another. Then you know what it’s like xD I like having my views on the world challenged. I like knowing people who are different and live different lives from myself. If I had the wanderlust, I think I would have been someone who travels the world to make friends in every corner, but alas, I fucking hate travelling, dude. Planes and airports can go fuck themselves. I have agreed with myself that the only time I’m gonna travel for the rest of my life is when I go to see my best friend who lives thousands of km away. Ain’t no way I’m putting myself through all that shit for anyone else.

      HA! You being ASD makes sense. I always vibe with people on the spectrum. Always. I often find them to have the right amount of nerd in them to carry interesting conversations and they tend to be a calming antidote to my chaos. I become an irl cartoon character when I speak with people. Spectrum people are nice because they rarely react to my nonsense and if they do, they rarely judge. And, I mean, same with them. They may be weird to some people, but to me I’m like: Ah, my kind of person. One of the first friends I made in my teens was ASD as well (not diagnosed at the time) and she thought I was gay and hitting on her for weeks because I kept pestering her to be friends.

      That is so funny that your friends, one by one have gotten diagnosed! Seriously, I always thought I was normal, right? That I was just really good at relating to people who were different because I am a bit offputting myself, I think? So I have been around people with every diagnosis under the sun since my teens and it was only a few years ago that my boyfriend brought up to me that he was 99% sure I had undiagnosed ADHD and that I should stop being so hard on myself all the time. Was like “the fuck?” and then a lot of things made sense all of a sudden. Because ADHD is the only diagnosis I struggled to understand. When people told me about their issues and symptoms I was always like: But that’s just what it’s like to live, innit? Maybe I’m too stupid to understand ADHD?" and I read about it and listened some more to friends and colleagues who have it and it still just didn’t click for me because that’s how I feel all the time, but I’m normal, so I must just not get it. Not even once did I put two and two together, dude. Not once. Not until my man spelled it out for me at age 34. :'D I am dense as a brick sometimes.