but it’s true. For some reason, many sapphics really do tend to move in very quickly once they do actually get together. It’s not exactly a good thing, so making jokes about it helps people take those considerations into account more than if we never talked about it. Many in-jokes from minoritized communities serve a similar purpose in my experience. They aren’t absolute rules of behavior, but common trends that it helps to be aware of. Most importantly, they’re not a stereotype applied to us by bigots, but jokes we make at our own expense.

Besides, it’s only the cherry on top of the main punchline. The real joke is that there is a lesbian cabal, but they’re really laid back and just there to foster community.