I once knew someone fairly exhibitionist. I consider myself relatively immune to bullshit and once spoke to her about it and how it was a bit rude to make other people uncomfortable for your own gratification, but she didn’t change what she was doing.
(She never hung out naked, it was just stuff she said or how far she and her bf would go when out with all our friends.)
I think there’s a real selfish mindset to it: people who do this like using their sexuality to get a reaction, even if others don’t enjoy it. They like “making a man hot under the collar” or watching someone try to decide whether to say something, or then feeling superior because they didn’t name the violation of social norms.
I kinda get the other side: if we were more open about sex and nudity it’d save a lot of grief. But I think you can tell when someone wants to do that versus when they get a power trip from sitting around with their tits out, because it’s done in smaller ways.
“why is she being weird, this is uncomfortable”
I once knew someone fairly exhibitionist. I consider myself relatively immune to bullshit and once spoke to her about it and how it was a bit rude to make other people uncomfortable for your own gratification, but she didn’t change what she was doing.
(She never hung out naked, it was just stuff she said or how far she and her bf would go when out with all our friends.)
yeah this kind of stuff needs consent from everyone or you’re just making people uncomfortable and that’s not fun or very nice
I think there’s a real selfish mindset to it: people who do this like using their sexuality to get a reaction, even if others don’t enjoy it. They like “making a man hot under the collar” or watching someone try to decide whether to say something, or then feeling superior because they didn’t name the violation of social norms.
I kinda get the other side: if we were more open about sex and nudity it’d save a lot of grief. But I think you can tell when someone wants to do that versus when they get a power trip from sitting around with their tits out, because it’s done in smaller ways.
Seems like the fundamental premise of the joke/meme? It sounds weirdly like getting off on violating others’ boundaries.