Out of curiosity, because I wish to understand your reasoning. What you’re saying that even though they wish to dye their hair in unique bright fantasy colors that they wish to remain anonymous and inconspicuous in public. Logically that seems like the opposite. If I also like having unique colored hair then I should ignore that we have something in common and not draw attention to it?
Please take no offense, I genuinely want to know your reasoning.
It’s not that it’s done for no attention whatsoever, it’s that the phrase “they’re just doing this for attention” is a way that people dismiss each other, and ironically, over-fixate on people who just want to pay for their groceries and leave, you know?
By being fashionable in socially unapproved ways, people will assume you’re being vain as a euphemism for their relative disgust, and vanity loses you a lot of social capital—aura, basically. They’ll rather think of you as prissy than serious.
But you can comment on a person’s hair if you like it, same as you would a band t-shirt for a group you both like.
Out of curiosity, because I wish to understand your reasoning. What you’re saying that even though they wish to dye their hair in unique bright fantasy colors that they wish to remain anonymous and inconspicuous in public. Logically that seems like the opposite. If I also like having unique colored hair then I should ignore that we have something in common and not draw attention to it?
Please take no offense, I genuinely want to know your reasoning.
I think you might be confusing a few things?
It’s not that it’s done for no attention whatsoever, it’s that the phrase “they’re just doing this for attention” is a way that people dismiss each other, and ironically, over-fixate on people who just want to pay for their groceries and leave, you know?
By being fashionable in socially unapproved ways, people will assume you’re being vain as a euphemism for their relative disgust, and vanity loses you a lot of social capital—aura, basically. They’ll rather think of you as prissy than serious.
But you can comment on a person’s hair if you like it, same as you would a band t-shirt for a group you both like.